So I had sex for the first time like 3 days ago with a girl that I really love and I was glad that my first time was with her. I just have a question/need insight. We ended up stopping before I could cum and it didn't really even feel like I was anywhere near it. She did cum and that's a priority I have (girls cum first) so that was good. And I still enjoyed it a lot, it was still one of the best experiences I've had. I was just wondering if anyone knew of any reasons I might not have cum cause usually guys cum really quickly their first time. It's not like I cared that much cause she was able to get more satisfaction and she was pleasantly surprised that I didn't cum before she could. Thanks for the insight.
Tue, 03/03/2009 - 22:01
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Didn't Cum
Any number of reasons but not to worry as you gain in experience and increase in comfort you will find it easier to orgasm. For now, just relax and enjoy learning.
Some guys don't come the first time for the same reason that other guys come really fast the first time - body and mind being confused and overwhelmed. It only gets better from here so just enjoy it.
If you were attempting to climax as a result of oral sex (hand job and/or oral stimulation) please read this article:
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
If you are having intercourse and wondering why the difficulty, there are two probably reasons: first, the vagina offers a lighter grip around the penis than a hand or mouth, therefore the overall stimulation is less; second, many fellas nowadays operate under the misguided misconception that the way to an orgasm is from lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking and thrusting. WRONG. Getting turned on and "high" is the why of fooling around and making out, first, before foreplay. That said, spend no less than half an hour kissing and caressing and all that. Women require this and men benefit from it which means that you should be at or very near your trigger point before entering the vagina. A few strokes regardless of how firm the grip should take you beyond the point of no return.
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Got questions?
I didn't get off the first dozen or so times I had sex, but still found it enjoyable enough to keep trying. Give it some time.