Ok so here's how the story goes. My friends and i were having a little get together. There was going to be drinking and pot and just a fun time. I invited my girlfriend.
So while we were out picking up the alcohol my girlfriend says to me, "please monitor me and dont let me get too bad, and if i say no it means no." I said, "alright, but do u mean don't have sex with u (we currently dont have sex.) or do u mean nothing period?" She said, "Well... no sex ok?" I say, "deal"
So later on in the night after some smoking and drinking we lay down in this bed. It was nice because we never ever get to lay down in a bed ever. So while this is going on she is kissing me and im kissing her. So i roll her on top of me and i initiate some dry humping. she doesnt say no so we go ahead for a little but got interrupted.
She gives me this weird grin and says "We were doing bad things." but it was in a joking way. So i was like whatever so we lay back down and she rolls on top of me this time. So i initiate once again and she goes along with it. SHE IS HUMPING ME BACK SO ITS ALL GOOD.
then i grab the inside of her leg and she says no bc she knew i was going to get my hands in her pants. SHE SAID NO AND I STOPPED. Then we continue to hump and we got once again interrupted. She rolls away from me and thats that for the night.
Then we r leaving the house and she starts saying how she didnt know what was going on really which is i think a lie bc she would get up and check on kids that were puking. So she says i dont think ill be able to trust u in those situations again for a while.
WTF?! did i do something wrong really? She isnt mad and we rnt even fighting about it she forgives me but she needs to regain trust. Im just kind of angry and she already said shes just down for kissing and she wants to again this weekend.
SO MAIN POINT. did i take advantage of her?
I don't see how you did anything wrong here? You guys were both getting frisky with each other and when you tried to escalate things she said "no" and you respected her decision and didn't try to force her to do anything.
Maybe I missed something but I can't see how you took advantage of her.
Well, seeing as how nothing really happened, I would say you're fine.
I also think it's a little unfair that she's saying she cannot trust you because you felt her up on a bed. However, I am only hearing one half of the story.
i can see where you guys are coming from. The only thing i know for real is that she WAS humping and pressing back on me. She said afterward that she was half asleep and when my friend interrupted and said "Nevermind go back to what you were doing." she said she had no clue what she was doing.
HOWEVER she was NOT asleep. i know for a fact bc she was up and talking and saying no.
lol just seems like she doesn't wana take responsibility for the fact that SHE was turned on and might have done some things she's not too proud of, so she's using you as the scapegoat to justify herself, because.. well... SHE would never do such things! -_- careful with these type's because, things that are JUST fine while they are happening can turn into things "YOU" pressured/forced on her when she looks back on it later. My sister is this type of person, shooting paintballs at the kids next door is just fine when you hand her the gun...but when they tell mom, it was your idea... and she didnt do a thing, the head shot was all you
She said no sex, and you didn't have sex. There's no problem with what you've done other than the fact that you're dating an insane woman.
Actually what she meant is not that she cannot trust YOU in those situations - she really meant she cannot trust HERSELF in those situations hence the monitoring she had you do. NO , you did not take advantage of her.
BTW - see if you can't do without the drinking and pot next time. It really is about time you both grew up a bit dontcha think?
And quit making excuses for your behovior? The "I was drunk." or the "I was stoned." thing.