okay so i had sex for the first time with my girlfriend the other day and i was quite worried with what happened. we believe in practicing safe sex, so we used a condom and everything.. but my problem is that i am worried with how long it took me to cum. we had been going at it for 2 hours and i had no feeling of the urge to ejaculate. we stopped for a while, tried different things, and eventually tried a different condom. with this new condom it took at least an hour.
is it bad that it took me so long? is this normal or what?
If it was your first time it could be due to the condom decreasing the sensation. Many have the opposite problem the first time, too quick. Try putting some lube in the condom. It could be due to nerves. It could be due to the sensations are different with vaginal intercourse then a BJ, HJ, or masturbation. As long as you both were enjoying each other, I would not concern yourself with it. You could wait until you are close to climaxing, put the condom on, and then perhaps this would make it quicker if that's what you want.
I have heard that sometimes if you're too talented with your hand, that intercourse doesn't really produce the fireworks it's supposed to. Don't know how true that is because I never had that problem, but different people have different experiences. As sera said, the condom could be a problem. Did your gf have an orgasm or not during all this time? Just try different positions, maybe change condom brand, or avoid using your hand for a while.
yeah that was the thing. the first time we had oral sex, i hadn't been masterbating for almost a week and i went after the first couple of mintues. that is the reason why i was so worried about this happening.
Hold off on the jack-off for a week and go without any stimulation whatsoever. You will most likely get a better erection and the stimulation will be more effective.
does not jacking off help things go smoother when you have sex?
i mean.. does it make things feel better for us guys?
haay..when you gotta g/f who you have sex w/ regularly id suggest not jacking off heh..it could cause for it to feel better..lubes work magic too, TRUST ME-go 2 spencers pick up a bottle..trust
It's probably because you don't know what feels good yet because you're new. After a few times you will find what feels good, resulting in a quicker orgasm. But honestly, 3 hours!? I hope you guys did it doggy style so you could both watch a movie or something, that's crazy.
[QUOTE=wetwilly;181536] But honestly, 3 hours!? I hope you guys did it doggy style so you could both watch a movie or something, that's crazy.[/QUOTE]
Hey, they could watch a NASCAR race from start to end, and their goal would be to BOTH orgasm as the chequered flag drops!:) 3hrs later!!