> do you think emotional sex is more rewarding contribution to physical sex?

In a word: absolutely, positively, indubitably, yes!

I have stated many times that communication and feedback are keys to having a successful relationship and this includes the physical aspects, also.

"Emotional sex" is simply another term for whispering sweet nothings in our lover's ear, fooling around and making out long before ever getting to the foreplay stage or intercourse. Emotional sex begins with a hint or a suggestion hours earlier for what we'd like to do later. It may start with a card, a love note, a short phone call, E-mail, etc. It may be as simply as a "look" during dinner or after.

Emotional preparation is important because it fuels the fires of passion within. For women who normally require a long build up before being ready for orgasms, this is key. Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting {also referred to as going around the bases or making it to 1st, 2nd, 3rd, etc.) are often overlooked by today's younger generation, or not given the importance the process deserves.

The question should not be whether or not emotional sex is more important, the question is in why pleasing a woman's psyche and emotions is an important aspect of having a successful and rewarding romantic life.

I recommend that you read the articles listed in the Index. There are many articles that discuss the importance of all this.

If by "emotional sex" you mean talking about sex then NO it isn't.
If by "emotional sex" you mean physical sex with someone you like or love who likes or loves you back then YES it is.

The trouble here is that the 'shy guy' is trying to AVOID anything that even hints at physical, sweaty, smelly, falling out of bed, quick change the sheets sex. Sex has to be pure and somehow "elevated" on a higher plane of existence.

And this is because he thinks sex is debasing.

Connecting with someone on that intellectual plane before things even progress romantically is awesome. If you are already open to each other about things I believe that when the time comes for you to explore eachothers bodies the communication aspect will not be difficult. Great love making isn't a 'stick it in, get off, pull it out", it's about feeding off the energy and passion that you build up in one another.
If you can satisfy her mentally, then the physical aspect of it should be no different because she will be able to tell you what she likes and if you're doing something that she doesn't like. And you should be telling her the same things.

It would be very nice if romance and relationships were as easy and as perfect as all of that - but...no, sorry, no. As many a man will tell you, linger too long "connecting" with her and you'll be in "the friend zone" forever. I agree that there has to be a meeting of the minds between partners in a relationship - but a couple of dates does NOT a relationship make.

But the main point HERE with THIS particular guy "do you think emotional sex is more rewarding contribution to physical sex?" other than asking more rewarding contribution than what? Is the NEGATIVE view this person has of physical sex.