Quick question...If I were to stop masturbating all together, would that help make me finish faster in bed? I mean I like lasting long since I can really take my time to build my girlfriend up....but its a little disappointingwhen she stops me and has to give me a handjob( which also takes a while :()
When I masturbate I can make it really quick but whenever she does anything its a long time (be in oral manual or intercourse)...So if i stopped would that help to decrease my finish time?
Anybody? (insert inspirational phrase here)
[quote=Ducy;204595]Anybody? (insert inspirational phrase here)[/quote]Generally the answer is yes. Try it and see what your individual results are...
My boyfriend was reading this with me and he says yes, it does make you cum quicker in his experience.
Since we have been going out he swears on heart that he hasn't materbated once, and he lasts the perfect amount of time in bed.
But people are different, so as Sera said, try it out and see. :)
Try this position.
Her laying face down...legs straight and together... you straddle her thighs and enter her from behind. My b/f loves this position.. but says it feels TOO good and he can't last very long that way!
Like this but the girl keeps her legs together.
Ducy - yes.
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It isn't YOUR stamina you have to worry about, it is HERS. Even younger women are capable of having prolonged sex - if she would only realise it and relax. Women have to learn to "roll with it" and to let their sexuality run freely.
You can help with this process, not by finishing faster, but by moving from intercourse to body worship and then back to intercourse - repeatedly until you HAVE to orgasm simply because you cannot hold back any longer. You will also find that once she reaches this mutli-orgasmic state, she will reciprocate more and be more active which should make you finish sooner.
Please review The Program with your gf.
What is with women not enjoying long penetration? Maybe I produce more lube...but it never gets uncomfortable/painful for me...I love when he stays inside me for 20...30...40...+ minutes.
Once I orgasm... I tend to start drying up.
It's like I have that initial extreme wetness... but don't really produce it for the duration.
Demon, hand him a botle of lube and keep rolling!
Ducy, I'd like to see what happens after you stop having climaxes by whatever method. One thing, I bet you will be typing much faster! and maybe resorting to text messaging shorthand, which I hope does not happen. As for not masturbating, just how long do you plan on abstaining? How long do you think you can?
Do you recall the name of the movie I recommend to people who are interested in seeing how long they can go? "40 Days and 40 Nights", staring Josh Hartnett.
While not stimulating the penis will make the nervous system much more reactionary and may just be the answer, I'd really encourage you to communicate better by having you demonstrate to her how you masturbate and then taking her hand/fingers in yours and guiding her movements over several sessions until she learns to mimic the movements, rhythms, and pressures you have come to rely upon to build and then trigger an orgasm. As part of this, it is very important that you provide feedback on how you are reacting to her caresses and for what you may need next/now.
Explore and work together as a team in partnership of this quest. This has always been my reply to others who want their partner to be able to modulate the stimulation effectively.