[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;251029]LOL @ dlb..there always are exceptions.

However, before you go on thinking it is your 'size' that's the problem (you're not all that big - top end of average actually) check your technique. When you say "eventually she could take all of it" I suspect that you're not very good at this sex thing. Find study and then do ALL of the steps in The Program, a sticky post found elsewhere in this forum because sex isn't supposed to hurt.[/QUOTE]

Not all that big? top end of average? he's in the at least 97th percentile for both length and girth according to everything ive read about it.

But Guitarfan, you shouldnt have a problem with it if you get her properly aroused and she doesnt have a dryness issue which would be fixed by lube. I believe she should be able to get at least 6 or 7 inches and probably all of it. I just wouldn't start off pouding deep and hard because you'll probably pound her cervix which most don't like. And I'm sure you wont hurt otherwise unless youre really aggressive and/or put all your weight on her.

Go for it. My personal experience with smaller women is that they are more active and aggressive, want more and can take more active and aggressive sex than their larger counterparts of whom one would expect such behaviour.

LOL @ dlb..there always are exceptions.

However, before you go on thinking it is your 'size' that's the problem (you're not all that big - top end of average actually) check your technique. When you say "eventually she could take all of it" I suspect that you're not very good at this sex thing. Find study and then do ALL of the steps in The Program, a sticky post found elsewhere in this forum because sex isn't supposed to hurt.

Yes, EvilEvilKitten there are exceptions. I remember a certain 5'10" lady who was almost as kinetic as , lol.

[QUOTE=Guitarfan;251023]The girl I am currently dating is quite small (4'9" tall) and she has recently expressed interest in becoming intimate. I am the second person she has cared enough about to sex with and I feel honored that she trusts me. I am a little bit worried about it though, because I am about 6 feet tall and much larger than her. I am afraid that I may accidently hurt her or something.

[COLOR="blue">This is a legitimate fear, so let's discuss the matter:
Hurt her how?
a. If you are worried about your body weight squishing
her when on top, then rest your upper body on your
hands or forearms. Do not place all or most of your
weight on her until you see what she can tolerate
and then only for a short while. Be prepared to get
off at any moment.

b. If you are worried about her vaginal opening being able
to accept a large penis, test, again. Make certain she
is very wet and that her vaginal mucus is distributed around
the entrance. In addition, make sure your penis is well
lubricated. Purchase a water-based lube at the drug store.

c. Please read the articles listed in the Index found at
the top of the main page. The Index contains links to
helpful, informative, insightful, as well as how-to articles
that discuss the most common questions and concerns
people ask about--including yours.

Please read the articles listed under "SEX e.g. INTERCOURSE". I recommend that both of you read the articles, separately or together and then discuss what you have learned.

The next article to read is: [/COLOR]

INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping
[COLOR="blue">Chapter One in a series (Scroll down to read each chapter along with readers' comments).
[/COLOR]
There is another thing I am also worried about. I am on the larger size when it comes to my "member" as well (8'' in length, 6'' in girth) and I don't know if this will be painful to her or not. She has never really seen my cock, but I expect she knows its rather large, and she is still eager to have sex with me. My last girlfriend was the one I lost my virginity to, and it hurt her but she eventually could take all of it, though she was about my height.

[COLOR="blue">Physical size or stature does not generally have a bearing on whether or not the vaginal opening is wide enough, or can stretch. The vaginal vault itself can when aroused accommodate most any penis because it expands when the woman is aroused.

Virgin or not, the key is to use pressure and not to poke, jab, or, shove, your penis into her. You can tease the opening with your finger and at the same time help distribute her mucus all around.** Next, make sure your condom is well lubricated, also--even if it is a lubricated type. In fact I would not bother with these, just use regular ones of proper size and either spread the lube around it or invite her to do so! Invite her to roll the condom on and to dab a bit of lube just on the glans of your penis so it has some "wiggle room" in order to transmit more friction.[/COLOR] :D

Is there anything I can do to prepare so I won't do anything wrong? Any products for this? Im nervous and I want this to be fun for her, not painful.[/QUOTE]

Yes! First, please read Chapter Five of the series that discusses experience.
HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

Second, read the articles that discuss the how-to's of making out and learn not only how but why doing so correctly is so important to a woman.
**Of particular importance is the information on "communication" {verbal and non-verbal), and, giving each other "feedback" on how you are responding to each others caresses. Here is a short tidbit on feedback:

Feedback can be given verbally or non-verbally. Verbal feedback can be a word or a phrase or some other utterance the two of you work out to convey a specific meaning. The same goes for non-verbal communication that can be a squeeze of the hand or some other form of body language.

This practice is important initially when attempting penetration the first time or two. Use pressure. Rely upon her feedback for how to proceed, pause, or regroup.

Third, DO NOT be in a big rush to have intercourse, if this is your goal. Work up to this over several weeks. Devote a few make out sessions to Necking, then upping the intimacy to Petting, then to Heavy Petting, all before ever getting to the Foreplay stage. Build intimacy. Build trust. Build anticipation over these weeks. During this time learn and practice becoming a great "make out" artist. Read about boundaries and Implied Consent whether you do this together or separately. Then, discuss what you have read.

Last but not least: Do not have intercourse without having three forms of protection: hers, yours, and "ours". Do not try to fool Mother Nature by not using any protection, and, the two of you should always look out for #1. Neither of you should rely solely on your partner for your protection. The three forms are discussed in one of the articles. You always use a condom. She should be on the pill, patch, or be using some other form of highly reliable method of contraception. Both of you should use a spermicide as a third line of protection.

Understand that making love is not what we do to each other; rather, it is what we do with and for each other in partnership. That being said, knowledge is empowering, so do this together. Mistakes and flubs will happen. (Again, read the article on experience). As I tell my dance students, this is serious business, yet you should not take it so seriously that you do not have fun. It is not so much that something happens, what is important is how you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and continue on.

Please do not hesitate to ask questions, although, after you do your reading assignments! I hope this is of help.

-doc

Average is 5 to 8; big is 8 to 12 inches and I have personally been with a man whose penis was the size of my forearm and as big around as my forearm and I am not a small 4 foot something woman. A useful and decent 8 x 6 is nothing out of the ordinary.

As I, and many others, have said - it is't what you have that's the issue - it is what you do with it that matters.

This is why The Program was developed - to give average people a way to get from "not interested" to "I want you now" in a sequence of increasing intimacy and arousal that guarantees all partners exuberant and joyous sex while bearing in mind the capabilities of each gender. And it works very well.

Which is why I recommend it often.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;251037]Average is 5 to 8; big is 8 to 12 inches and I have personally been with a man whose penis was the size of my forearm and as big around as my forearm and I am not a small 4 foot something woman. A useful and decent 8 x 6 is nothing out of the ordinary.

As I, and many others, have said - it is't what you have that's the issue - it is what you do with it that matters.

This is why The Program was developed - to give average people a way to get from "not interested" to "I want you now" in a sequence of increasing intimacy and arousal that guarantees all partners exuberant and joyous sex while bearing in mind the capabilities of each gender. And it works very well.

Which is why I recommend it often.[/QUOTE]

I don't think 8 inches is average but whatever. The program does work very well for me.

im no girl, but i dont see an issue, she knows very well whats involved, and she will let you know if you are hurting her, take it calm, i didnt say slow, calm, act as if she is somewhat fragile, and im sure she will let you know if she desires more or less, after all, there are plenty of little women who are perfectly happy with big boys