My wife and I just got married 3 months ago and we married as virgins. We're madly in love. I've got a huge sex drive now and want her all the time because she's beautiful and I love her. But we can't seem to get any arousal out of her vagina or clit. It's like it's dead. I'm horrified at the thought of just using her body to get off - I think it's selfish. I want us both to experience an orgasm & enjoy sex together. She's very self-conscious about me even touching her down there and thinks licking her would be really gross. I constantly tell her she's hot and that I love her, but it doesn't really do it. Besides getting a vibrator, how would you suggest getting her in the mood (mind and body)?
Tue, 08/03/2004 - 16:57
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Dead Vagina?
sounds like an attitude of repressed sexuality she was probably brought up with... I'd think it's a deeper problem than any sexual technique would be able to solve.
lol your name is like alucious at another forum
i feel very bad for you and your wife espceially. what i would do is have her masturbate to see if she gets some enjoyment out of it.
is she on some medication cause once I was on some anti-depresant and it made me not even want to do it.
maybe go see someone for help like your gp.
I think maybe if you didn't make her 'dead' vagina the focus of your intimacy, things may improve. You can always just kiss and hold each other, light stroking on her face and arms and stuff like that. See where it leads.