Honest response. How much do muscles/body REALLY matter?

[jetskidude]

Women always make up this stuff about personality and attitude. How much of a factor is a man's body really. I know for men, a woman's body matters a lot. Be truthful

[dancingdoc2]

> Women always make up this stuff about personality and attitude.

Really? Made up? Honest?

[Brandye]

Not much. I have never, nor never shall, date a couch potato blob. That, however, is not so much because of attraction to muscles as it is being repelled by obesity - or even a hint of it.

In attraction, the body is less important than other features; in repulsion, the body is it. I have great respect for the two men (in other threads) who have lost much weight and gotten their hearts pumping again. I have a bit of disdain for those men and women who repeatedly admit the need to tone up but never quite get to it.

[big916]

having a decent build will always help but don't get it twisted, you will be nothing more than a fling if you have no personality. i am still a big guy with a heavier and muscular build but i am getting my fair share of girls now because they think im funny and easy going. and the nice smile and dimples probably help too personality goes a long way with men and women so don't underestimate it.

[llovell]

That depends entirely on an individual's personal taste.

Girls are not a single entity with one collective opinion.Body can matter a lot, or it may not matter at all.

You also need to consider that you're working from YOUR opinion of what an ideal male body is when you mention muscles. I know plenty of women who like their guys soft around the edges.

Personally?

My range is quite large, but I've always been very specific that I DON'T like the muscle-man aesthetic. To have any more muscles than is natural to aquire in a working life just looks strange to me. It also says that he spends altogether too much time working on his appearance to get this way, which personally I'd interperet as an advert of insecurity and low self-worth.

Likewise, while I am happy for guys to be chubby, if it gets to the point that it is getting in the way of their general health or life functioning? That's a turn off too because it says (to me) that they have low self-worth.

So yeah, body can matter to me, personally.

However, I have had my preferences challenged by guys who were awesome people in other ways. There are always exceptions and preferences are not necessarily fixed.

Your best tactic is to stop thinking about what women might like, and just start behaving as though you are a worthwhile person and treating yourself appropriately. That way you can't lose; you become a confident healthy person and you're certain to be on the radar of SOME woman.

[tiffers]

body matters to me but personality matters more. I agree with Brandye I would NEVER date an obeses guy or a guy that just sits around all day. I have standards to high for that. I dont want to be dragged down with a guy with no ambition. Personality matters to me more then looks. A solid connection is very important. But the body does matter to. Only I realy dont want acrazy musculer guy its kinda gross.

[EvilEvilKitten]

I take men as they come. At my advanced age - do I have a choice? He's an adult with a working brain so I do him the honor of staying out of his decisions which are no concern of mine.

But if there's no meeting of the minds, no matter how much of a stud he is, there will be no meeting of the bodies.

Good heart, soft touch, adult understanding & behavior, and his head screwed on right - that's all I ask.

[llovell]

Perhaps I should have clarified in my rambly post that while body can and often does matter to me, their personality is always the deciding factor.

He can be as pretty as humanly possible, but if he's a prat or a prick... no dice.

[lulu_kachoo]

attractiveness/fitness is always a bonus. i love a nice face lol (like everyone).
but otherwise it doesn't really bother me. i'm not fit and i don't have double standards that i expect my partner to be. i find though that having a nice personality makes him more attractive as well! i also think you pick out certain physical features in a person that you like, and are more likely to see these good features then the bad