How to end it as cleanly as possible

[Mc-Lovin]

I am really desperate to get out of a newish relationship, the girl really likes me, but I am not into her.

My whole life I have had horrible ends to relationships and those women HATE me afterwards.

This time I just want a clean ending.....that peters out in a week or so....with no hard feelings.

PLEASE someone coach me how to do this!

[dancingdoc2]

There is no easy way, even if you and a girl have been dating only a few days. Much depends upon her degree of emotional involvement and no one can control how a person will react to bad news. So, some people will take it hard, others not so, still others, with a grain of salt as they too probably are not that into the guy either. It's a crap shoot.

What I will tell you is to do it in person, explain that she is a nice person, just not what you are looking for. An alternative is to tell her that you just do not see a future together, yet this does not have any negative reflection on her, just that not every person is a match.

All you can do is be polite, informative, and, honest, and let her deal with the information in her own way.

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[EvilEvilKitten]

This is easy. Simply contradict everything, absolutely everything, she says. Don't want to do what she wants to do. Don't like her friends. Invite her to go places she doesn't want to go to and to hang with people she doesn't like.

See, this way SHE will drop YOU and be glad to be rid of you.

But being female she'll be nice about it and just stop answering your phone calls and declining to go out with you because she won't want to confront you either.

So the relationship peters out.

Or you can 'man up' and just tell her that you're just not into her - no chemistry - and say goodbye.

[Brandye]

Evil's last thought is the only honest and honorable approach. Sit down (no texts or emails) and tell her flat out how wonderful a woman she is but the two of you are simply not meant for one another. End. Thanks, Tears, maybe still friends.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Unfortunately, this man, I'm assuming, has to also consider his past history, if any, with this girl. If he's had sex with her and then wants an escape, then it is another story - pump & dump.

He should also review all the girls he's dated to see if HE's the problem as in continuingly selecting a certain type of person because unless he has, there's no real reason why ALL of his past ex's should hate him. Of course, he could just be a jerk. I have no information on that.

The only thing I can say about him is he lacks courage and empathy.

He needs to carefully consider how he'd feel if....