Flirting with a MFN idea

[Jillianslovetoy]

Hey me and my gf have really been thinking of the idea for a Mfm threesome. We fantasize about it during sex and we talk to each other on what we would do in it and now were talking about multiple guys doing here at a time. Does anyone think well do this in real life if the moment strikes I'd really want to we've been dating for about a year now. Is this the first step?

[Biker Babe]

Yes--my husband and I fantasize about this as well. (It was more HIS fantasy at first) I guess there is something so exciting about seeing another man pleasing me that turns him on. We did try to make that a reality----it was a learning experience I guess you could say. It didn't actually happen all the way. I won't go into all the details here. It was with a mutual friend of ours. Think long and hard before you set out to make this happen as there can always be repercussions. We still use this fantasy in our sexual play and the thought of it is always exciting.

Sometimes a fantasy is better left as just that though-----a fantasy....

[ludaje]

My wife and I sometimes fantasize about this too. She likes to imagine me with someone else. Don't know if we really want to explore this in reality though so in my situation a fantasy is best left as a fantasy. But my situation is not yours. If it works for you both then go for it - but beware of the pit falls.

[dancingdoc2]

Will we, won't we, that is the question. Who are we to presume what the two of you will decide to do after reading a few lines of text and knowing nothing about you or the dynamics of your relationship.

If you had asked the question "should we or should we not" my answer is not now not yet--wait a year or two until you have built a much more solid relationship. Why? Because very often when such ideas move past the fantasy stage and into reality, the reality is that what transpires among the three of you ultimately can and often does damage the primary relationship.

There are two search engines on the Board, use one or both to read the archives and see what has been discussed previously.

It is very important to understand what is fantasy play and what ends up becoming real as a result. Emotions and often jealousy can take what is intended to be innocent experimentation and play and undermine your primary twosome.

Now, had you said that your relationship with each other is one of FWB, then the advice might be different. When love is a part of the equation, it is best to have established a very solid relationship with lots of trust, first, before bringing in a third party to play around in your love nest.

Keep this is a fantasy. Also, the two of you can roll play for the time being as one of you takes on the persona of the imagined third party. Try this for now and see how this does or does not spice things up.

Should this threesome ever come to pass, who do you want this other man to be? Family member? Friend? Acquaintance? Total Stranger? Regardless of who, you want to make certain he has a clean bill of health with a certificate of proof.

You also have to have ground rules in place that he and the two of you agree to beforehand {or penis!) You also cannot mix up fantasy emotions with real should your girlfriend behave much more intensely with the other guy and what they are doing vs. how she generally reacts with you.

Keep in mind that the male of the species can separate out the emotional component of sex much more easily and with less of a hit to his psyche than can the female of the species. Making love is the outward expression of the love two people have for each other. This is very different from just fooling around with people for sex sake. Never confuse the two.

Never let jealousy rear its ugly head either. It is all too easy to become insecure when one or the other partner reacts much differently or is much freer with his/her emotional responses with the third party than with the primary. If and when this happens, understand that this is part of the fantasy and not necessarily reality based except for the feelings invoked.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

-doc

[Jillianslovetoy]

Had anyone had one?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Anyone had one??

YES. LOTS.

The couple begins and the additional male then gently joins in. Keep in mind the mission which is to please and to thoroughly satisfy HER and that this is not a competition between men nor is it a "do high fives over her back" kind of thing.

Besides which, this question has been asked many many many many times.

[Jillianslovetoy]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Anyone had one??

YES. LOTS.

The couple begins and the additional male then gently joins in. Keep in mind the mission which is to please and to thoroughly satisfy HER and that this is not a competition between men nor is it a "do high fives over her back" kind of thing.

Besides which, this question has been asked many many many many times.

Yeah this question has been asked many times but everyone has there own idea. No I love this women deeply and that's the only reason I wanna see her enjoy it and go crazy.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Right so go and look up all those other q/a's and see what has been said.

[Jillianslovetoy]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Right so go and look up all those other q/a's and see what has been said.

Half of them r over a year old....and there aren't really any on mmf

[EvilEvilKitten]

Jillian's - they are if they're by me! Actually, MFM or FMF doesn't matter, the etiquette remains the same. So what if they're a year old - did you think the methods have changed? Nothing's new, hun, since the dawn of time except this loyalty to the idea of mongamy.