Thinking of Sex

[dallascgirl]

Hey all, what constitutes and addiction to sex. I am fairly conservative, but the older I get all I want to do and think about is having sex. I satisfy myself, but am afraid to step out and go for it. I have had men interested, but not sure how to go about it. I have never been the aggressor. But it's getting very difficult. I think I should just get a pair of vibrating panties all day..lol

[Ducy]

Your not addicted to sex. You were raised conservative, you probably suppressed a lot of sexual desires throughout life. Now that your older, and your hormones are shifting, your starting to have a little more trouble controlling it. Most women's sex drives increase as they get older. And if you haven't had sex in a while then there is your problem.

Just take what you want. If you have a man interested, get to know him. Read him, get the feel for what he is all about. If he is respectful, and there is a spark, then plan another date and be prepared to make a move. Most men love a woman to take charge. You'll be amazed how much greater your arousal level will be when you actually go for what you want. I was once shy and timid, and the sex was ok. Now I am not afraid to go for it and its much MUCH more satisfying

[EvilEvilKitten]

Go up to the man of your choice, place three fingers beneath his chin and guide his lips to yours, kiss him - holding it for 20 seconds at least, and draw back and say "Hi, my name's ___".

Always worked for me.

[sexgoddess1]

Im sorry EEK but thats not for everyone and im sorry that you think that guys will fall down at your feet. Id agree with ducy but i was like that once where i dreamed bout having sex and thinking of sex with random ppl mainly celebrities but haha never gunna happen...so yeah itz ok

[Ducy]

Lol sexgodess. You really need to learn some respect on this sight. I know EEK can handle herself but your continual banter and crap writing style is getting on my last nerve. She is more experience than you or I could ever hope to be. If she says something works, it sure as hell works. But then again she is in a lifestyle that many of use are too emotionally "fragile" to handle. Show me a person who can handle being in love and married to one, while engaging in sex with several others, and ill show you one skilled and matured (not to mention mentally open) individual.

You want to get a wonderful man or have a good relationship where you don't get walked on? Then listen to every word that EEK says (as well as doc) and treat it like a relationship bible. They know where its at!

[EvilEvilKitten]

What do you mean THINK?

Men do tend to enjoy my introduction; mainly because FOR ONCE in their life SHE'S chasing him!!! Do you have ANY idea how much rejection a man has to endure? If he asks 300 women and gets 1 yes out of the bunch - he's a Winner. That's how bad it is for men out there. So when a not too unattractive woman comes up and hits on him - he's thrilled! He's gotten a yes without having to ask. He's already won. What happens after that point is of minor importance. NOTHING will erase that first kiss from his mind - ever!

For men are people too.

[wet_suit_one]

Ahhh... Eek, if only the numbers were that good!

[hot-texan]

1 out of 300 ? would be good odds, but to many men will bow out of the chase after the first 50-60 and won't get that last one.
sure having a woman hit on you is an awesome way to get started, but if she's going to open with a kiss, I'm going to do what I can to get a one-night stand out of it then move on to someone I will still respect a week later

[EvilEvilKitten]

I suppose that should somehow 'hurt my feelings' but that's ONLY assuming I wanted your respect. But how much can a man's "respect" be worth if he's scorning a woman's generosity and holding onto a sexual double standard?

[Ducy]

Can we get a like button for EEK's postings?