Enough is enough!

[sexgoddess1]

Since i was 13 i had sex one after another but in the since i wanted to date them but i never was enough. Yeah I am hot and sexy and I love to have sex but at the same time I am smart as hell fun outgoin open minded and Im easy goin I hate arguing but for some reason they just see me as a beauty call. I put all my trust and heart well i make them earn it first but they take advantage of me and they abuse me. I was raped when i was 9 and i have a problem. One time like twomonths ago my ex lives in dallas said he had money and hed pay me the gas money when i drove there he had no money foun d out later he gave 400 dollars to two girls who lived across the street to buy clothes, he works for a landlord who take in after cps kids so yeah i was pist none for his gf, and i have been dealin with this my whole life why do i ahve to play the game of rejection til someone actually wants the full package and its a great package!!!

[Ducy]

Well your a booty call because your allowing yourself to be. Your picking the wrong guys. Your ability to "put all your trust in someone" is messed up and you need to stop. Odds are your setting your goals too hgih and therefore falling for assholes, or your a little "too" self confident and therefore pushing the good men away.

Personally, I do not feel I am much to look at. I am smart, funny, charming, I've been told I'm very attractive and am great in the bedroom. But I still have my self doubts. I don't walk around saying I am "the shit". In fact I humble myself a great deal, maybe even more than I should. I haven't had a solid relationship since my ex fiance (3 years...almost 4.) I meet a lot of girls through my job. Many of whom come in thinking they are gods gift to men. Guess what, I have never classified them as anything else than a booty call (and to be honest they're generally not as good as they think). The ones who are a little more reserved tend to be the ones that I will look at as more than a booty call.

Also did you ever get help for you rape? Most of the times, (at least with 90% of the people I know that were raped/abused) tend to date the guys who are generally jerks. Just like Girls who grew up with a bad father or no father tend to have that "daddy" issue where they want someone to take care of them and are super clingy and will do anything for a man.

Re-asses yourself. Make sure you have the right attitude. Look at the pattern of men you date. Find what they have in common (trust me, you'll be able to figure out what commonalities they have besides treating you like a booty call after everything) and then stop going after men with that complex

[ROBINHOOD _00]

we learn from our mistakes enjoy life for now and don't look for bf cuz when you stop looking he will come to you when you are looking you come out to strong and so some guys don't want to date that and for the ur ex well you need find a diff type of guys ... let me get to know you lol jk but don't worry in time you have either better or an ok bf

[sexgoddess1]

let me tell you that i do humble myself yeah i think im beautiful but i do have a low self esteems sometimes, sometimes i could improve myself alot, but itz also my life itself for the way i grew up i was taken from my parents when i was 9 but i do know how to respect myself trust me i dont think im the shit i just know that i an a precious jewel that needs to be cherished. Im confident when i want to be but when im alone i see self conscious but thats in every girl. thx for the help im a great person and im fun and not everything i do gives off sexual clues just my image. I like to have regular convos u know and dont worry ive already had enough im changin my ways of where i trust so easily and yes i have had plenty of therapy and im fine i have my dad now so i dont need that daddy clingy shit so im good and yeah i see the patterns thats why ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! I am a very determined and strong girl and i think guys need to stop bein so scared of girls who have confidence to an extent, nowadays women are so self absorbed cuz the media and itz bullshit so yeah confidence is good in away but learnin to be humble is good too. I have had good guys but either i move or somethin happens to where im alone again but itz alright im goin to be a zoologist and marine bioogist i can wait!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Okay, you're confident - so stop with the "precious jewel that needs to be cherished" crap then and get rid of that chip on your shoulder "oh yeah I make him earn it". Pfft. You do nothing of the sort.

I can say this because this is NOT the first time you've posted pretty much the same thing elsewhere in this forum. Half strutting whore and half scared little girl.

Stop. You need to seek counseling because your behavior continues to betray you and leads the jerks to your door and you are unable to change on your own. You need help.

Get help.

[sexgoddess1]

Im glad you see me that way but EEK, you are just as bad. Saying how you like it rough then marriage and fine go ahead tell me to have counseling but i dont care what you say and giving everyone that sex is a great idea and it can be with anyone and even when it fucks up others relationships and beliefs, these are the things ive learned and learning now. Yeah i dont want to get hurt of course im scared alil but i love sex i had sex with 20 men so i just tired of bein a whore i want to be in a relationship. Oh and for your information I am dating a great guy right now and i dont need counseling i have my family to help and god and im sorry you have your own issues and isecurities.

[Ducy]

Lol EEK is one of the most sexually secure members on this forum.

Perhaps it is the late hour or me getting used to low carb, but your post made little sense.

And trust EEK. You do need counseling. EVERYONE who has been raped or abused says they'd ont because they have "family/friends/god/ wonderful bf/gf to help"

YES you do need help. None of those people are equipped to help you prroperly. And don't even get me started on god.

Also why do you get mad at EEK for calling you a whore but later referr to yourself as a whore?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Oh, SG, I am the sexually dominant one - not the men. He's the one who has to endure 'the rough stuff'. Lord, girl - didn't you realise I'm a dominatrix?

I did not call you a whore - I said you WERE ACTING LIKE ONE and yet ALSO mixing it with a ACTING like a timid little scared girl. My point was that your behavior and your thought processes were NOt in harmony. THAT is why you need counseling - to bring to some harmony back into you.

Because mixed up as you are - you're sending MIXED SIGNALS to men and THAT only brings the predators your way. IF you want a decent man, who doesn't suffer from the Galahad Complex, then you will HAVE to get yourself together.

Go get counseling.

[sexgoddess1]

ok ok i get it im all confused abit. I took counseling for the last 7 yrs its just hard to talk on the website about it and it is very confusing. I am sorry, i do get offensive because no one has understood where i am coming from..I am sure that you all think i need counseling but i don't, I just need to refix my motives and morals. I am very smart funny and expereinced young woman. I am getting scared to open up to a man bout my past and i have had plenty of predators and im tired of being a piece of meat. Im more like trying to explain my past and trying to understand what am i doing wrong to just except all the bad guys, what arte the signals of a good guy. I am sorry for being rude to all.

[sexgoddess1]

to make all of your minds at ease i will respect EEK's advice and take another month or forever how long of counseling. Maybe I have been surpressing all these feeling sub consciously and not know it. It may help and help me recognize what's going wrong. thx I think I should not judge but sit back and learn. for all we know no one is perfect and knows everything.