Should I Tell Him He's Too Small?

[crzsxy]

I've been seeing this guy for about 3 months now (we met online).
We get along great but he has a very small penis and I don't know what to do with it (don't want to have oral with him)
His foreplay is amazing and I get so hot I can't wait for the real thing then, nothing.. I mean I really feel nothing.
Any advised would be helpful.

[Ducy]

Have oral?

Or break up with him?

Or just have him finger you?

Not a whole lot of options. You don't have to tell him that he's small. It really won't accomplish anything since he can just say "oops sorry let me grow it 5 inches"

[EvilEvilKitten]

No, he already knows it. Besidies this he doesn't need to hear it.
And there's nothing he can do about it either so, save your breath.

What you need to do is to decide if he's worthwhile despite this.

[lnt1103]

You think he can't get you off now, wait until he's got performance anxiety because he knows you don't find him 'enough'. No reason to cause more hurt feelings to an already fragile libido.

I second EEK. Decide if he's worth it.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by crzsxy

Should I Tell Him He's Too Small?

Not unless you want to bruise his "fragile male ego"! and damage his self- esteem and -worth for a long time to come. Of what purpose would it serve to tell him? Even if you choose not to continue the relationship, telling him something he already knows is adding insult to "injury".

It is important to know and understand that guys tend to be very insecure with regard to the size of their endowment, so for a woman to make unfavorable comments about the size of his penis is not a good thing to do.

It is important to know and understand that "normal" size is a range determined by both ethnicity and genetics. For more on the subject, please read this article, written mainly for teens.

For Boys Only- A Matter of Size (Regarding your penis)

I've been seeing this guy for about 3 months now (we met online). We get along great but he has a very small penis and I don't know what to do with it (don't want to have oral with him)

It is important to know and understand that you "do with it" as you would with any other penis.

It is important to know and understand that for most women, size is not an issue--what is, is that it be:
* fully functional
* long enough to grasp
* that you consider the shaft of whatever length
to be like a handle that functions as both an accelerator
and a brake over which she controls his progress toward
an orgasm.

His foreplay is amazing and I get so hot I can't wait for the real thing then, nothing.. I mean I really feel nothing.
Any advised would be helpful.

It is important to know and understand that if by feeling nothing you are referring to his penis within your vagina, that this is quite normal. Why? Because the vagina is devoid of nerve endings. This is in order to facilitate giving birth.

Now having said this, the vaginal opening is quite sensitive, as is the underlying G-spot as well as a couple of other areas. What many women find pleasurable about the "feel" of intercourse is the sense of fullness the penis provides.

If you do not know how to touch and stroke a penis in order to pleasure a man then please do read the articles that discuss the matter. Generally speaking each of us knows the basics involved in stroking a penis and fingering a clitoris; however, every person has an individual and unique way of exciting themselves. It is important to learn how to mimic your partner's technique and there is an article on this, also.

Do you masturbate? Are you able to climax regularly and consistently? If so, then show him how you do it, then take his hand in yours and move it accordingly until he learns to mimic your technique. The same goes for you with him.

It is important to know and understand that we do not give orgasms away. Each of us is responsible for our own. All any of us can do is to help our partner achieve their own. This takes knowledge as noted, above, and skill that comes from practicing.

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You are correct to be concerned, although, before you become overly concerned and critical, please devote some time learning. This is why all of the articles were written, and this website's Charter.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Oh stop it with 'the fragile male ego' - it is just having empathy toward another human being. She'd get upset if he said something negative about her body so why wouldn't he get upset in the same situation?

[hot-texan]

as already said, he already knows he's small - no need to point out the obvious and let him know that it's such an issue for you also

try some new positions like you on top or doggy style

[Ducy]

Her on top would make it worse.

[RedRoses]

I'd advice experimenting with angles, positions, simultaneous stimulation and see if it feels different

Originally Posted by Ducy

Her on top would make it worse.

Doesn't that depend on the actual shape of his penis?
I mean, by personal experience; if I'm on top facing him, it feels great, especially when I lean forward
When I'm on top reversed cowgirl, neither of us feels much stimulated (well, except for him visually )

The way that does make that position fun for us, is when I drop back all the way and he can move his hands freely across my body.
The penetration may not be as stimulating, but does make us more physically connected, more intimate.

Such added stimulation could be very nice in any position. As a plus: the muscles (at the entrance) of the vagina tend to grip more tightly when (close to) orgasm, so that could result in a more "full" feeling. Since he's good at foreplay, I'd say: add some foreplay-aspects to the mix!