One night stand aftermath

[ninja]

If you have sex with a girl at college that you don't really know, perhaps just in a class of your's. but you don't preform as well in bed as you would have liked. Would she go around telling people about this? Just her close friends? most of her friends?

What if she was actually ur friend? Coworker at a job? Ladies, what would you do?

Please respond to the various situations.

[dancingdoc2]

> Would she go around telling people about this? Just her close friends? most of her friends?

You are asking those of us who choose to reply to be mind readers. There is no cut and dried response. There are no mind readers; however, I can tell you what you might already know and that is that most females of the species like to chat. You can take that for what it is worth in order to predict what might happen--good, bad, indifferent.

As a fella placed in this situation I can tell you what I would be telling her if word got back to me and it was unkind:

"Hasta la vista, baby!"

[Aphrodite_66]

Well I might say something,but it would have to depend on how much I liked you as to what I would say.Anyway I am not the type of person to judge my sexual partner on their performance.

[maupassant]

This world is full of unkind people and I understand the worry over what someone might say 'over a 'poor sex performance'. I suppose it brings it all to the level of a school report - 'Could do better' or 'must try harder'.

Sexual perfomance can vary. OK, one may have a satisfactory orgasm one time, and the next time it may be not so good, or it may be red-hot carpet singeing ecstacy, with the bloke finding an extra load from behind his ears.

However, we seem to be living in a 'Kiss and Tell' culture. Here in UK well-known soccer players are falling into the trap of having sex with a woman and then finding she has sold the story to one of the main newspapers.

Where are trust, honesty and all the good things of sex life? What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom, or it should do anyway!

[EvilEvilKitten]

This quesion reflects the common male worry "performance anxiety" and "will she tell everyone"?

Two things to remember:

1. the WORST sex you will ever have with a person is the FIRST sex you have with that person - so EXPECT it to be not so great. Besides which, most women do not compare men in sexual terms. They compare your character, maturity, sensitiveness, good manners and so on - those sorts of things, not whether your penis is 6 or 6.97306 inches long.

2. ONLY under SPECIFIC circumstances, do women talk. If during your first 'date' you gave her a black eye, EXPECT a visit from the police and know you will never get another date with anyone else because everyone remotely female will know all about you in great detail. Just because you may not have 'performed' up to some standard, she's not going to mention it unless asked for a 'referral' or an 'opinion' by a close female friend. In such cases, it is what she does NOT say that will count since she will mention only the good stuff.

[lnt1103]

I have never given technique specifics to anyone, about any of my partners. When I chat, it's things like "our first time, he walked me to the car after and almost shut the car door on my head by accident" or "6 hours later I had to board a Greyhound for a 4-hour bus ride, and it seems to be affecting him".

I have to say, I hope that the OP will keep this thread in mind when roles are reversed and he is talking to his buddies about his experiences. My guess is, he's not the only one who was in that bed, who is now worried there will be talk.

[EvilEvilKitten]

You are correct Int and usually he won't talk either. Men tend to not trade notes.

[big916]

Is not talking about performance within a certain age group or as women you haven't heard much bedroom gabbing over all? I have seen quite a few guys talked about by girls. From size to length of time lasting in bed. I am still rather young but things haven't much changed since high school.

[funinthesun]

In addition to what others have said, it's worth noting that there is often a night and day difference between how an 18 and 23 yr old treat a sexual situation, both of which are college age.

I think you can safely expect the same type of reactions as in line with how the situation occurred in the first place. If the sex is treated as blatant immature ego boosting conquests, from either side, then you can expect it to be treated as such afterwards as well. If it was mutual attraction between mature people leading to an attempt at a night of physical fun, then as the others have stated, your worries likely for naught.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Depends on the people you choose to hang around with, big.
If they are 'still playing high school games' then I'm not likely to know them.