Too late for fun in the bed?

[sexy50]

I am 52 years of age. Very long married, cheated on my husband a while back for the first time and just met with an old friend (he contacted me) and it might go the same way. Is something wrong with me? For about 30 years never crossed my mind to cheat and now it is something new starting in my life. It is like I am getting worried that someday in the near future I wont be able to do this and that I did not get what I wanted from my husband. (for may reasons) I want to feel wanted and desired, and at this stage there is 2 guys way from the past that says they wanted me all the long and are greatfull that I am available now. 52 years of age or not!

Any other ladies that experiencing the same now or did experience situation like this?

[dcronje]

Originally Posted by sexy50

I am 52 years of age. Very long married, cheated on my husband a while back for the first time and just met with an old friend (he contacted me) and it might go the same way. Is something wrong with me? For about 30 years never crossed my mind to cheat and now it is something new starting in my life. It is like I am getting worried that someday in the near future I wont be able to do this and that I did not get what I wanted from my husband. (for may reasons) I want to feel wanted and desired, and at this stage there is 2 guys way from the past that says they wanted me all the long and are greatfull that I am available now. 52 years of age or not!

Any other ladies that experiencing the same now or did experience situation like this?

sexy50
I am nearly 50 and I cheated on my husband past Wednesday to be exactly for the first time in 27 years. Was married as a virgin and for most of our marriage did not get proper sex because of my husband's weight problem (he is obese) Now I am getting worried that soon I will be too old as well to enjoy sex to the fullest and when I got the opportunity I took it! It was awesome! Have sympathy with you as well, but I am so scared to get caught. Can not think what it will do to all the parties involved. My lover, or at this stage I can say sex partner feels luckily the same. I think we are playing with fire, but I am going to enjoy! Hope to get together again soon with my sex partner! Let you feel like a real women.

[Brandye]

Women around menopause sometimes discover a renewed interest and vigour with respect to sex. The hormones are nearly as unpredictable then as in an adolescent. The difference is that you know what is happening and have some interest and skill. The oldest patient I ever encountered to experience her first orgasm was 54 - and it was not with her husband.

Be careful. We women outnumber men at this point and sharing men can lead to sharing STDs. The getting caught bit is up to you. Use common sense. And, have fun.

[sexy50]

Originally Posted by Brandye

Women around menopause sometimes discover a renewed interest and vigour with respect to sex. The hormones are nearly as unpredictable then as in an adolescent. The difference is that you know what is happening and have some interest and skill. The oldest patient I ever encountered to experience her first orgasm was 54 - and it was not with her husband.

Be careful. We women outnumber men at this point and sharing men can lead to sharing STDs. The getting caught bit is up to you. Use common sense. And, have fun.

Thank you for your comment.

For this patient of yours getting her first orgasm at the age of 54. She problably also married to her husband like I did as a virgin. So the only man she ever was with was with her husband. We both did not know any better. Because of this I think I would like to try and experience as much as possible with the right men coming my way! It will obviously not be any guy. He must be worth it and preferably someone I know like the second guy I had coffee with. We know each other since we are kids and when we were 17years of age we nearly had sex, but I refused in the end. He asked me if we can continue where I stopped him about 35 years ago? Isn't that sweet? He is still a goodlooking wellbuilt guy! Just waiting for the right moment!

I will be carefull! Up to now my first cheat I thought I new what sex is, but now knows better!

[EvilEvilKitten]

As the "Senior Woman with On-Going Multiple-Male Relationships" of this forum - Welcome! LOL

As we come into menopause our hormone levels change, leaving us with more testosterone relative to estrogen - this results in an increase in sexual desire. From what I have seen, no one is too old for sex. There are 70 plus year-olds still enjoying themselves out there and with luck, one of them will be me.

Yes, this is fun! I too enjoy the Lifestyle/Swinging immensely. I too have my husband of more than 30 years and a few very good friends. However, my husband and I have discussed this and have our agreement.

I would counsel you to discuss the possibility of Sharing with your husbands - perhaps as a fantasy? - just touch on it lightly and then give him time to wrap his head around the concept - because enjoying yourself out in the open, as it were, is kinder and more honest than hiding. Scary, I know but he just might surprise you.

Condoms mandatory and no leaving marks, thank you.

[sexy50]

Thanks for welcoming me. Do not feel so akward anymore!
How did you manage to discuss it with your husband? What was the reason for you to convince him that you need sex with someone else as well? Is he not able to fulfill you needs? Have you got sex with more than one guy on a regular basis? Sorry for all these questions, but it is amazing and interesting what you achieved!
I am quite sure I will unfortunetaly never be able to discuss it with my husband! He will never accept! Will have to keep it secret. On the one side with regret, on the other side it keeps it full of exitement!
Would love to make it up though for what I missed over the past years!

[Ducy]

I just have to chime in here.

Not experiencing an orgasm till she was 54 isn't because she was with only one man and married a virging. I know many women who are in their mid 20's and have slept with tons of men and still not had an orgasm. I also personally have slept with 2 virgins who have incredibly powerful full body orgasms.

Most of the time its because of societies "morality" issue when it comes to masturbation.

[big916]

I fully support you exploring the swinger multiple partner life style, but deception is an ugly character flaw. You should either discuss and make an agreement with your husband, separate or get rid of this desire. I don't think it is fair nor safe to be cheating behind your husband's back because you could get a STD if a condom breaks and pass it onto him.

[pcp71]

that fact that you are hiding this makes it worse and takes it deeper into the realm of cheating and mill make it worse in the end. If you play with fire you will get burned eventually.
Have you told your husband about your renewed interest in sex and that you really want to reconnect with him.

Part of the reason that sex with these other men is that there is no baggage, just the thrill and emotion. You don't have to discuss kids, grandkids, money, chores, plans, etc. You only tell each other how much you like each other and how much fun the sex is. Do you think you will still be as thrilled with this guy if you had to discuss every day dealings with him daily and then find time for sex as opposed to just sneaking away for a bit of fulfillment. The sneaking around also fuels the adreneline and makes it that much more exciting and enticing.

I'd say try and refire the spark with your hubby if you haven't already. Most men are simplistic. If you make the leap of faith to give him sex, he will respond in kind one way or another. You can use that catalyst to get him to open up and rebuild what you once had (if you even want to) If you truly are looking to get out, then do the right thing and get out of the marriage before taking your physical needs outside of the marriage.

while folks around here are more open, many people can't deal with sharing their spouse.

[Brandye]

Sorry folks, but I did not read swinging into the original question. She knows her husband; she knows her present situation. Of the several women I have known who first "got there" in their thirties and older, and usually after a few children, most were with men or women other than their husbands. I do not advise cheating but am merely reporting reality and, lord knows, with my background I am in no position to pass judgement. That is a personal decision and I may recommend differently to a 25 yo and a 50 yo.

A particularly poignant situation was a woman of about forty who had never experienced oral sex and when a man went down on her, she found a solution. When she gingerly brought the idea up to her husband, he said he knew many women liked that but did not think she would. That marriage did not last and the solution had been right there for many years. He simply did not ........