"Dating" and the Internet

[Nervous_One]

Uh... I never once said that morality couldn't exist without religion, EEK. Why bring that up? Hell, I've been doing some thinking and I don't think I can handle the negative stigma my religion gives me and the way it makes me feel, which is pretty much useless. So if step one is to turn away from it then that step is in the process of being taken.

Also, college is not an option for me. I don't need it for the career I want to get into -- hell, there are no college courses that even teach what I want to get into because of how ridiculously simple it is. If I'm only going to college to meet girls it's thousands of dollars a year (that I don't even have) wasted.

I don't go anywhere with the specific intention to meet people. Not that I don't want to meet people; I don't mind being social at all, it just happens. I always have another goal in mind when I go somewhere, usually in tune with the purpose that particular place has. Like going to a bookstore to buy a book. Or to the grocery store to buy groceries. Or to my job to make money. Being social is never the first on my priority list because that's not even what these environments are for. In fact, these places won't even allow you to be social if you're not doing what they want you to do at the same time, which is either buy something or do your job. Hell, even the job won't want you being too social beyond getting job-related information from a coworker. Stores and restaurants have a "No Loitering" sign that specifically states that unless you're there to buy something, endorse the business, or work, then you're trespassing and will be prosecuted. I'm already prosecuted for NOT being social -- I don't want to be prosecuted for the opposite, since that's even worse.

No, I don't want to be alone forever. Giving way to my fears isn't a concious choice for me, otherwise it wouldn't be happening.
I do want to find love. Damning my fears seems like a good idea. But there's the issue of the fact that my fears PARALYZE me.

I have decided what I want. Going for it is the problem.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Then conquering fear is your job.
Get to work.

[Nervous_One]

Any pro tips on how to go about doing that?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Baby steps. Put yourself into a situation where you have to talk to people.
For example, go to a salon packed with women to get your hair cut. Repeat until you are relaxed and without fear.

[Nervous_One]

Sounds easy enough...

[EvilEvilKitten]

Overcoming fear is best done in steps with each step building upon the last much like ascending a staircase.

[Nervous_One]

Thanks for the advice, EEK.

[Nervous_One]

Sorry again for double-posting, but there was no Edit key when I looked at my last post.

Well, my LDR and I are no longer together. Turns out she's married and her husband is oversees serving a tour of duty as a sailor. -_-

This pretty much means I have absolutely no choice but to look around locally and try to find at least someone RESEMBLING a match; an impossible task on the face of it considering I don't live in an area with a lot of people and the people who do live here are either too old or too young or already spoken for, i.e. married.

I'm really depressed right now and not looking forward to looking for a partner/girlfriend/wife anytime in the forseeable future.

[g-dubz]

@ Nervous_One: Don't get depressed! Keep your head up! Even if you live in an area that doesn't have many single people, as long as you continue to meet women, someone will come along eventually.

[g-dubz]

@ Nervous_One: I posted this in the "What's fun?" thread but I'm going to post it here too in case you don't mosey on over there.

David Wygant: Is Your Love Life Worthy of Valentines Day?