Guys are so confusing...

[Kay_luvz_sex]

The male species continues to elude me. I'm 16 and i know I should wait till I get older and in college to start dating but I want to date now. Most guys I know don't want a relationship. They're just looking for sex. I'm pretty shy but I can get aggressive. Are guys afraid of an aggressive girl or is there something else?
(Sorry if my thoughts are scrambled)

[big916]

I cant say the percentage but of course there are boys that want a relationship. We also really really want sex. This is the same for girls as well. Waiting until college won't change anything, people will still want the same thing. Of course it is ok for a girl to be aggressive, a lot of us like that. Us guys have to deal with rejection more than women so you making the first move is a nice change. The first girl I was with made the first move and it was great. I will say that you need to comfortable in your own skin and your decision to be aggressive because there is always a chance people will name call.

I don't understand why you think you should wait to get in the game 2 years later in college. A lot of good guys would like to date you. You will have good memories if you put yourself out there.

[Kay_luvz_sex]

Yea. I won't lie. I would love to have sex with the first guy I walk up to. And I'm comfortable with myself. I just don't know how to approach guys I guess. It's easier if the guy approaches you (if u were a girl) you know? Well thanks for the reply. It gives me something to think about while I'm out.
And well idk about the waiting. Everyone I know says I should because I'll meet alot of ppl and what not.

[big916]

I know what you mean as far as someone else taking the initiative. But you walking up to guy alone has already given you points in his mind. Take what you want. And do you live a small town in tx? Is that why your friends said that?

[Kay_luvz_sex]

Oh ok! Yea I'll start doin tht more.
It's not a small town but small enough. It's Waco actually. Yea tht could be why.

[EvilEvilKitten]

OMG why on earth do you care what other people - who you most likely will NEVER see again - think about you? So TF what! IF you don't run around calling every Tom Dick and Harry your 'boyfriend' and give blowjobs in cars in the high school parking lot, most people won't even know what you're doing or with whom. I should know - everyone in my high school - graduating class of 100 - thought I was a virgin for heaven's sake. Little did they know.

To really seal the deal, go out with their older brothers who have, presumably, learned to keep their mouths shut.

Next: use BCPS and condoms religiously! You do not need to become pregnant or diseased. No condom = no sex - ALWAYS. BTW he supplies the condoms.

Actually, it is best if YOU pick the GUYS. But don't go picking the most popular guy or the one all the other girls are chasing and NO 'bad boys' because they're really not worth it - too stuck on themselves to treat you with the proper consideration.

As to what to say to a guy - you ask him out to a specific event at a specific date & time and remember if it costs money you're the one who pays for everything since you asked him. Budget accordingly. A soda at McDonalds to talk is fine.

[EvilEvilKitten]

NO guys are NOT confusing. Almost all of them want sex - to the point where if they don't, something's wrong somewhere. They actually think about sex every 7 seconds.

If you start from that prespective you will hardly ever go wrong.

[Kay_luvz_sex]

Lol @Tom dick and Harry. But seriously. I just want a guy to give me some tlc. I find tht I have more fun with guys than other girls. Thats one reason why. Idk. I don't want to be a disappointment. Maybe I just need to chill the eff out. More thinking. :/

[EvilEvilKitten]

Chill out? WHATEVERFOR? No, no, GO FOR IT and give him hell!

Trust Big and I on this one - a teenage guy is STUNNED if a girl even speaks to him so you can imagine what would happen if he knew you liked him and were thinking about him "in that way". He'd be both amazed and immensely pleased!

Please - do a guy the favor of at least saying "Hello, I was thinking about you."

[Ducy]

I'm going to give you 2 examples, and perhaps you will understand why you need to be upfront and not play "coy".

I met a girl junior year of HS. We became best friends. I fell in love with her. I asked her out, she said no. We both had significant others throught senior year. We both happened to be single at the same time and get bf/gf's at the same time. She was going to move. I was a little depressed and one night as we were hanging out, she confessed that she always wondered what it would be like to kiss me. So I made a move. It was wonderful. Well after that night she never mentioned anything about it, and I took it for face value. It was a one time thing. Well come to find out, 2 years later after moving, having a kid and getting married (for the insurance more or less) she confessed to having some strong feelings for me after that fateful night.

Had she told me, I am certain we would be together and she would have never left. (She was "escaping" her parents and trying to grow up. At the time I was living on my own I know she woulda just lived with me rather than moving to another time zone.


2:

I met a girl while living in LA. I thought she was cute. We talked, I made a joke about how she couldn't handle my freaky side and she told me to prove it. We hooked up, and started having some insanely fun rendezvous. She later admited thinking I was out of her league and didn't believe I would go for her, but took a chance when I made my "freaky" comment. It paid off big time because for those couple months that we had sex, we were both in total physical bliss lol.


So do you see why you should just take a chance?