guy bad at sex...

[sam2568]

okay soo i didn't know where this post should go...but anywho im 18 and my ex is 26...yeah i know huge age difference...anyway he wants to get back together but ya know i need my freedom...need to hang out with other guys i mean im only 18 and not ready to be married and thats what our relationship was like...anyways im trying to at least give him a chance but still be broken up at the same time...and i have f****d another guy and it was good but its hard to go back to sex with my ex cause he is really bad at sex...its hard to explain but its not fun at all, he's really awkward, i always have to fake it, and as soon as it starts i can't wait till its over...its horrible...i have told him its bad before and he tried making it better...but that just made it worse...i don't want to forget about him cause of sex but i cant have horrible sex for the rest of my life either...help! i don't know what to do!

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[dancingdoc2]

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At 18 you are at a stage of life where you should be exploring people and relationships as well as the world in general. You should also be preparing to become an autonomous adult--meaning being able to be self sufficient and learning the skills necessary for living on your own (roommates included) and not with parents.

There is a purpose for dating and it does not stop with the first warm body who expresses an interest in us so that we can declare to the world that "I have a boy- girlfriend!" This is explained in one or more articles and it is this that you should be concentrating on so that when Mr. Right does come along you will be better able to recognize him.

Sex can be for sex sake; however, more importantly it is the outward expression of the love each of us has for our partner. Bad sex equates to a poor expression of that love. Remaining with a poor lover who does not improve is no reason to hang onto the relationship. Perhaps your ex- should be shown this site and the articles in the Index if he truly wants to improve his skills. If he is and does not show an interest then most probably this attitude will manifest itself in other aspects of his relationship(s).

So, date, and date lots of people, and learn about their good qualities, bad qualities, quirks, desires, goals, objectives, values, etc.

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[EvilEvilKitten]

What to do? Easy, tell the 26 yr old goodbye. No, you don't have to give him a reason. That relationship has run its course.

[orangedan]

Obviously, either teach him or leave him, as good sex is something that is important to you. He will not magically get better at sex, he is probably nervous, especially after you told him he is bad in bed.

Think for yourself if you really want to give him another chance, do not let anyone else influence you, him, your girlfriends or your parents.

[sam2568]

thanks guys! im not with him anymore...i met someone my age who makes me really happy and treats me super good and is ammmazzzing in bed..you guys helped a lot!!!