im confuse

[greenriver]

i am a man around 35 and i fall in love of a woman that shes 20 years older then me. we live in the same house but she got a boyfriend. i been in love since i was 24 o 25 . on that time she have a crush on me but i wasnt ready for her, i guess , and i know the she dont love this guy shes whith him because she feel lonely, and i dont know how to tell her about my feelings!!!!

[dancingdoc2]

> we live in the same house

Hi, I'm curious about your living arrangements, are you a renter/boarder? If so, do you have kitchen/laundry privileges?

> i am a man around 35 and i fall in love of a woman that shes 20 years older then me...i been in love since i was 24 o 25 . on that time she have a crush on me but i wasnt ready for her, i guess

Ordinarily, my thought on the matter would be that if you haven't made a move in ten years, why pursue the matter, now. That said, you did explain that because of the differences in age and maturity level, it took a few years in order to finally be more compatible with life and your respective outlook on various matters.

So, why not invite her to chat and simply tell her what you are thinking, feeling, and why. The conversation may be a bit awkward, however, it shouldn't be particularly difficult. At the end, you will know for certain if there is any interest on her part for getting into a closer relationship, or, if she simply values you as a friend.

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[Brandye]

Unlike Doc, I could care less what your living arrangements are. But, more importantly, my advice is exactly the same. Simply tell her what your feelings are. Who knows, this may lead to even better living arrangements for each of you.

[Poisian]

You're thirty-five and she's twenty years older than you?!!!!!!! That fact all by itself is enough for me to run away from that situation.

Better stop and think hard about this whole thing for a minute or two.

When you turn forty-five, still a relatively young person -- she'll be sixty-five years old. What are you going to do with a sixty-five year old woman?

My advice: I'd just forget about the whole thing if I were you. Unless, of course, you like sleeping with Ma-ma. I sometimes wonder about these young chicks who go around with these men that are twenty and thirty years older than they are. They must like sleeping with Da-da.

I'd go find someone my own age if I were you.

How does that song go? "Act your age -- not your shoe size."