to please or not to please?

[swiftychick]

Does anyone have a long term partner that they feel like they can't please or make happy?

Even if your partner says that you do make them happy?

Just curious!
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[jessica roy]

I have had many partners that felt like they could not satisfy me despite what I say.

[Ducy]

I have had my doubts but I think its healthy to have your worries. I mean id rather be conscious about pleasuring them, instead of being so egotistical that I "know" my partner is satisfied and not care about paying attention you know?

[RedRoses]

Dear Swiftychick,
If you don't mind me asking:
What makes you think that you don't please your partner?
What are the signs that tell you your partner is not happy, despite saying so?

First of all: unless you have any proof he's not, believe that your partner is telling you the truth. That he's genuinely happy with you. Part of your senses could be your own insecurity. But there could be other things on his mind that are really not so happy. And you, being his long term partner, can feel that. Maybe he feels that he shouldn't bother you with his troubles? Well, they sure are bothering you now...

What it requires is honest and open communication. My advice would be to pick a moment in which you both can talk in peace. And tell him you sense that there is something on his mind and that he could tell you everything. Tell him this in a non-defensive and non-attacking manner, just as calm and open as you'd like him to answer to you. Give him time to answer. Such conversations create moments to open up to eachother. You'll either get genuine answers or genuine comfort that there's really nothing to worry about.

And about your question; yes, been there, done that, sometimes do so still
I'm very familiar with the dilemma of "to please or not to please".

PS; I don't know your preference, so I just picked "he" for your partner

[CleverName]

I agree with RR.

The best thing you can do is talk to him/her. Plain and simple.