taken girl staying the night with random guy

[KingDave]

Ok, I met a girl through mutual friends about a week ago. She has been with her B/F for 8 months and I've met him and we have all hung out before and drank.

We talk, text, and hang out every day. Yesterday she called me and she had a bottle of alcohol and her boyfriend was off with his friends and she wanted to come and hang out and drink her bottle with me. Mind you, I've paid for her to drink a few times, as I've done with her B/F, so part of me wondered if she was just returning the favor or was she flirting.

Anyways, I picked her up and I had a friend with me, she wasn't expecting him to be with me. After a few hours of drinking I realized that she had intended on staying the night at my house.

I have parties here often, My friends sleep on my couches all the time when we drink hard, so this isn't to uncommon.

Well, I really don't know what I'm asking, I guess I just have no idea what the think about this. The last girl who confused me this much turned out to not be interested in dating or fucking (thats a terrible answer to a tough question to ask) and I think I fucked up our budding friendship.

Do you think this girl just wants a guy friend? My last LTR ended with my G/F making a guy friend who she hung out with a lot, then they fell in love and she left me after three years. (lolz)

I LOVE having female friends, so I'm totally cool with just being her friend, but she is really really hot. (I threw her a b day party on friday)

I am going to play it by ear for a while, keep on reading this site, and hopefully get some advice that helps. nobody in real life ever has good advice for me

[Brandye]

When your primary social activity is "hanging out and drinking," those with whom you hang out have a similar interest. Generally that is not a basis for stable committed relationships but contributes to a pattern of "drive through" or casual relationships. A week? that is casual to suggest "I'll bring a bottle." She may be more interested in drinking than human contact.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Fun while it lasts but the possibility for error is enormous. Condoms are called for as well as this bottle.

[Brandye]

Perhaps, Evil, but my suggestion is: GET A LIFE!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Whether the girl wants him or not, he is to follow her lead - assuming that's where he wants to go. If not, all he has to do is feign illness to get out of any passes she might make towards him. Nothing drastic, a cold will suffice. Thus she's not insulted and he hasn't 'gone there'.

The party life really isn't much of a life. This is true. But once in a while is okay. Moderation in all things.

[percqueen]

very interesting

[jessica roy]

problem with that Kitten is she will leave that night but hit on him again you cant have a cold for the rest of your life lol. I would sugest just beeing honest. If she comes onto you either screw her or say your not interested. Simple as that the question is would you have sex with a girl in an 8 month relationship. Thats for you to decide but if she is willing to cheat then that tells you alot about her.

[raunchy gal]

I agree with jessica.If you really don't want to screw this girl be honest and tell her.If you do want to go there use a condom and be prepared to face the consequences if her boyfriend finds out.Also do you know if they are serious about each other or just in a casual relationship.You should find this out.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Let me be clear - this girl's relationships with anyone else are none of this guy's business. BOYFRIENDS have NO rights other than those the girl ALLOWS him to have. What ANY girl does on her own time is HER business and HER business alone.

If you and the girl are 'on' then protect yourself properly.
If you and the girl are 'off' then there's nothing to deal with.

[jessica roy]

does not say much about the worth of a relationship. BFs and GFs must have rights or whats the point of beeing in a relationship. Anytime 2 people have emotions on the line then both people have rights. When you agree to be commited you give the other person a right to be apart of your life, and atleast a leval of knoledge about what your doing. Thats the entire principle of beeing in a relationship.