What are the signs?

[fitzas]

Its been a while since ive been dateing so I hope these questions dont sound to silly, im just really unsure.

I've been seeing this guy for around a month and I like him and would like to start being more serious with him, start a new relationship. What are the signs that I should be looking out for that says he wants the same thing? I dont know if I should ask him if he does want to keep seeing me or just wants something casual im worried if I ask him it might scare him off.

I am happy to take things slow but I just want to know if we are on the same page.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by fitzas

Its been a while since ive been dateing so I hope these questions dont sound to silly, im just really unsure.

The only silly or dumb questions are those not asked.

I've been seeing this guy for around a month and I like him and would like to start being more serious with him, start a new relationship.

Haven't you already? You are seeing each other, talking to each other, dating, this sounds like the start of a new relationship to me.

What do you mean by "being more serious with him"? It has only been four weeks! How many days/nights have you actually spent in each others company? I understand being excited and anxious, yet believe you need to give your blossoming relationship time to grow.

Dating in its formative stages is all about exploration and seeing whether or not there is some compatibility between two people. Later, dating is more about spending time with other people and expanding your group of friends.

What are the signs that I should be looking out for that says he wants the same thing?

There is an entire section in the Index (found at the top of the main screen) that delves into the subject of dating. Please read the articles.

I dont know if I should ask him if he does want to keep seeing me or just wants something casual im worried if I ask him it might scare him off.

There is another article that discusses "Implied Consent". Employing this strategy will answer this question for you.

I am happy to take things slow but I just want to know if we are on the same page.

Time will tell if you are on the same page, in the meantime, keep on keeping on as the saying goes. If the man wants and desires you he will make his feelings known; if he does not, then you also have an answer.

[fitzas]

Thanks for the reply, i'll go and read those articles.

As for how much we have spent together we mostly hang out on weekends. Sometimes i'll go to his house during the week. But it's mostly just hanging out at his house we havent actually gone out to dinner or a movie or any of that dateing stuff. When im staying over I do sleep with him but we dont have a sex, there's alot of cuddleing and kissing though. When im with him he seems really keen but then during the week I dont really hear from him I might sometimes but not alot.

[dancingdoc2]

> When im with him he seems really keen but then during the week I dont really hear from him I might sometimes but not alot.

You might want to find out whether he is one of those guys who have a good thing going so figure no nurturing is required; or, that he is still new into the relationship and does not yet want to "swamp" you with chit-chat. Consider that he may think he has booty calls and a bed warmer, or, that he may simply be trying to figure out his feelings and whether you are someone he want to eventually go to the next level with.

[fitzas]

How do I ask him this without scareing him off?