is oral sex really sex?

[truebloodgirl]

Ok so I need your opinions is any type of oral sex
Like intercourse?

[dancingdoc2]

You have asked two questions:

Q#1: "Is oral sex really sex?"

Q#2: "is any type of oral sex like intercourse?"

What are you trying to find an answer to?
First, it is necessary to define "sex". Many people consider the word "sex" to mean any and all love making activities whether kissing and caressing stop with Foreplay or Intercourse.

I believe it is important to label each activity separately: Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting, Foreplay, Intercourse. If you agree, then Q#1 is not the same as intercourse.

Oral stimulation is what it is. Intercourse is what it is. Anal stimulation....
I do not believe you can equate a penis in the mouth with a penis in the vagina.

[dlb]

Pronunciation:/ˈintərˌkôrs, ˈɪn(t)ərˌkɔrs/
noun

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communication or dealings between individuals or groups:everyday social intercourse
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short for sexual intercourse

Pronunciation:/ˈsɛkʃ(əw)əl ˈɪn(t)ərˌkɔrs/
noun

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sexual contact between individuals involving penetration, especially the insertion of a man‘s erect penis into a woman’s vagina, typically culminating in orgasm and the ejaculation of semen.

source: definition of intercourse from Oxford Dictionaries Online

On a personal level I like to believe that any time one person stimulates another person's genital be it genital-genital, manual-genital,oral-genital, mammary-genital, etc. , especially to the point of orgasm, that we are dealing with sexual intercourse. The most accepted definition is that sexual intercourse is the penetration of the vagina by the penis.
Is oral sex sex? yes. That is why it is called oral sex.

[Brandye]

Face it: a blowjob leads to sexual gratification. That is sex.

Is it like intercourse? Not for the woman but she is giving gratification.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Let's see..what's it called again? Oral SEX. so DUH! Yeah it is SEX.
Is Anal SEX sex? YEP! There's that word again...SEX.

But NO it is NOT "intercourse" which is actual interaction between genitals or gentials and anus as in vaginal intercourse and anal intercourse. Oral intercourse means TALKING. (See post below).

[Brandye]

Omce again, the French have a handy word: demivirge. Applied to a woman who has had virtually every sexual experience except vaginal penetration. She certainly knows what the expect on wedding night!

[RedRoses]

Hi TBG,
Just looking at it from a sterile perspective; oral could be considered penetration of the body. Perhaps an odd fact to put here, but given the department of justice over here: unwilling oral, vaginal and anal penetration all are considered "rape". So they apparently view it as a comparable "act".

To me; oral is sex in a certain way, yet different from vaginal intercourse. And one way or the other me giving oral to him seemed more important than I receiving... I guess I consider it more invasive to put his member in my mouth. I only started giving him oral after he had done an STD/HIV-test by my request. This request did make it a milestone in our relationship, it felt like a confirmation of us being seriously exclusively involved. And giving oral did make me feel that I had climbed an inch on the sexual ladder

The experience of vaginal intercourse is very different to me and more something I associate with the word "sex". Especially to take the step to do it for the first time. Because:

-my vagina felt like something that was totally "mine". No-one's business!
-unlike my mouth that has been in use regularly for years (eating, drinking ), my vagina was rarely touched, even by me. So I really needed to get comfortable with touch, starting with his fingers, and learning to find it pleasurable.
-my belly is the "home" of my emotions, the place where my center is. And I must admit I found it scary to have someone basically entering my "core" (although it in reality is rather shallow penetration off course! ) Vaginal sex is therefor more "close" and invasive than oral sex.
-the fact that vaginal intercourse could lead to pregnancy, even when protected, mattered a great deal to me. It made it something totally different than oral sex. With oral it was about being responsible for myself and to some extend for him (not getting decease, hurting him, listening to my emotions, protecting my limits, etc). With vaginal there is this + the possible responsibility for someone else; new life that totally depends on a loving and caring parent. So before having vaginal intercourse I really considered whether he'd welcome a baby and whether I'd be able to take care of a baby, just in case...

As for after my first time: I do get a feeling of being very connected to him; feeling his energy swirling with mine. The physical connection between our genitals is very emotional to me. This feeling is way stronger than when we "connect" through my mouth (kissing or oral sex). But kissing while having vaginal intercourse does make the swirls swing better! And I must admit that I find passionate kissing even more arousing than in the beginning of our relationship. As if we connect more easily and my body immediately "opens".

This explanation is very personal and can not be "generalized". I sense a relation between this thread and your other: how can you spice up love life without sex? in which I asked you what "sex" is to you. There are tons of opinions, but what matters is yours!

[dlb]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Oral intercourse means TALKING. (See post below).

As in - the couple had an intercourse on the park bench.