What should I do? Only slightly attracted to my gf!

[JOshua]

Hello everyone!
almost a year ago I met this great girl.
We were great friends for the next 9 months.
She knows me VERY well.
We have MANY common interests.
She has been supportive of me when I wonder if most women would be so supportive. (money troubles)
She is 20 I am 32.
She is very mature for her age, but still has a few things to learn.
BUT the reason why I am posting is this.
When I met her she registered as only "kind of" cute.
And even when we started dating (it's been just over 3 months)
she was far from my type. I was hoping to ignore the fact that I wasn't blown away by her.

She is still a virgin. we have mostly done heavy petting. and i gave her a couple of licks. that's it (she just wanted to try it)
But now even though I love and care for her a great deal. and she is someone who I could easily get along with for the rest of my life...
The problem is sexually she is only slightly attractive to me. We are both trying to work out and lose wight.
But when I am masturbating and thinking about her. it's almost like work..

I don't know what I should do I feel split in two. On one hand I very much love this girl. But on the other I'm not sure if I'm attracted to her or "in love" with her. theres no heavy infatuation. and it feels like we are drifting back into the "friend zone"

I want to love her and fall in love with her, but my feelings are not cooperative?
Should I get counseling?
I have no idea..
I have always gotten good advice from this site (and thank you very much for that)
Any ideas??
Is there an article that I missed?
--Joshua

[dancingdoc2]

> I want to love her and fall in love with her, but my feelings are not cooperative? Should I get counseling? I have no idea..
> I have always gotten good advice from this site (and thank you very much for that) Any ideas?? Is there an article that I missed?

Thank you for the great post, Joshua. I'm wondering if you have read the articles listed in the Index regarding dating?

Are you aware of why people date and what the overall purpose of dating is?

Not all people are a match, so we date and date lots of people in order to find Mr./Ms. Right. My recommendation is to maintain the friendship between you, yet continue the search for the right mate for you or each other.

Bottom line: Continue to date.