need help

[tank5617]

ok i've already posted thread some what like this 1. but i found out that the girl i like REALLLLYYY likes me an she told me we talk for hours but the thing im worryd bout is she live in fuking ohio im n texas and the cheating factor because i know girls are like guys if there not sexualy pleased with there partner they go & find one tht can please them. and i anit got the $ to go up there neither does she. but im thinkn bout sayn no to the whole thing. But she is HOTTTTTT and we think the same. im at a stalemate plz help

[dancingdoc2]

Move or find someone who lives within a 60 mile radius.

(If you have not met all you have to go on is imagination, wishful thinking, and photographs. Until you actually meet and spend time together over a couple of months, you will never know for sure how accurate her representation is.)

[tank5617]

yea we talk shoot pic's bac and fourth idk im cautious but she's said multiple times im the best guy shes ever met but im completely honest bout every thing i tell her because she has been a rly good friend to me. but like i said im very cautious bout it.

[Qplezsthawife]

in my experience, long distance doesn't work....i was in one for a few years and the relationship ended badly......she slipped up and i found out about it from her bestfriend......i was mad, cursed her out in front of her mom and that was it......hurt me badly, but i learned to let it go, forgave her and moved on

so save yourself the trouble of relationship and stay friends

[tank5617]

yea were probably just be friends but she RLY RLY likes me

[Qplezsthawife]

Originally Posted by tank5617

yea were probably just be friends but she RLY RLY likes me

yea well that's good and all.....let her keep really liking you.....it's better not to be committed.....save both of you the heartache of starting a relationship that will be difficult to keep up......if someone slips, then the other person is hurt

but who knows, it could be different with you......some people actually make it work....you could give it a shot, but make it known in the beginning that if you or her sees that its not going to work out, then you all should call it quits and go back to being friends before the relationship crumbles

[lnt1103]

A few general points need to be made here:

**Doc's right about the online thing. I know, I did it. We spent a year+ long distance, have lived together two years, and are marrying in March. Anyone can say anything to/through a computer screen. Or, for that matter, into a phone. Don't count your chickens until you've met in-person and spent in-person time together getting to know one another.

**Fidelity is far from the only thing to be concerned about when trying to make a long-distance relationship work. Or any relationship, for that matter.

**Distance does not automatically correlate to a particular fidelity level. Infidelity can--and does--happen in, shall we say "local", relationships. Fidelity can--and does--happen in long-distance ones.

**Based on the communication style the OP uses here, I'm going to guess he's way too young to be moving cross-country for the sole purpose of exploring a romantic situation anyway, which makes all above points moot in this particular situation.

[raunchy gal]

Thanks int1103,i really needed to hear that info.I started talking to an older man (14yrs,and from the US)and we really seem to get along like a house on fire.He tells that he is attracted to me and that i excite him so very much.I have similar ideas about him,but i don't want to count my chickens before they're hatched.I had a 3 month relationship in person with a guy i knew for nearly 10yrs.He said he loved me and wanted to marry me blah blah...I tried to be cautious and quiz him re his intentions to be sure that he was sincere.But lo and behold he was chaeting on his fiance with me.He told me they had broken up,and her that he wasn't seeing me.He was very local.Every one who dates needs to put on rose coloured glasses so that they get sa clear view of it all .I can't stand liars and cheaters,but if this guy i chat to now were to be having sex with someone close while he's chatting to me i'd be ok with it.Until he's physically with me and we commit(if that were to happen)he can sleep with whomsoever he wants and that goes for me also.

[EvilEvilKitten]

STOP!

Seriously, you all have forgotten the FIRST PRINCIPLE of 'dating'.

NOTHING matters- not words, not pictures, not promises - NONE of it means a damn thing until you meet face-to-face, IN PERSON.

You can have the greatest rapport online and yet - have no interest in them once you do actually meet and then you've spent all of that time and energy building NOTHING. WASTING YOUR TIME.

Step AWAY from the computer and get your ass OUT THERE actively meeting people.

[dlb]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

STOP!
Step AWAY from the computer and get your ass OUT THERE actively meeting people.

Now that is sound advice.