I'm running out of options.....

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

Hello everyone, it's me Franklin. It's been a while since I last posted. Since my last post I've been using the advice given to me. Overall my life has been good. I have a 3.0 in school, and I want to do better. I've been working out. People tell me that I look bigger. This year I am much more active on campus, and I'm a member of two clubs. Early this year I changed my clothing style and wear better sized clothes.

However, with everything else going well I'm still unable to attract women. Women have no attraction to me whatsoever. I'm tall, clean, wear nice clothes, and have at least a decent face to look at. Yet, women still say that I am very ugly. I tried getting to know a cute girl on campus, but she ignored me. I watch how my friends easily get women. Women are always checking them out and saying that they are cute and sexy.

At times I get jealous(I hide it) because I see some of my friends who do not try their best. I try really hard with no results. One of my friends is your stereotypical redneck student who dresses down, and looks dirty. All types of decent and good women find him to be very cute. In my group of friends the girls always say which guys they think are attractive, and I'm never one of those guys.

At this point I feel that plastic surgery is the only solution or at least my last attempt. To anyone who don't know me, I have an ear deformity. My ears are normal size, but are not attached to the side of my head. I have no options to hide them. I went to a doctor last Tuesday for an appointment. All of the paper work has been filled out and sent to my insurance. I should get a reply between two weeks to a month. My insurance only covers the surgery on a case by case trail.

I went to a school counselor a few weeks ago. He high recommends surgery to solve my problem.


Here is what I'm looking for in a woman.

1. She must be slender. I take care of myself and have a good body so I demand the same in return.
2. She must be smart.
3. She must dress nice and take care of herself. I'm not attracted to girls who like to dress down. I'm not the dress down type.
4. She must be a christian
5. We need to develop good communication.

[justbored]

Originally Posted by RATED-RKOFRANKLIN

Hello everyone, it's me Franklin. It's been a while since I last posted. Since my last post I've been using the advice given to me. Overall my life has been good. I have a 3.0 in school, and I want to do better. I've been working out. People tell me that I look bigger. This year I am much more active on campus, and I'm a member of two clubs. Early this year I changed my clothing style and wear better sized clothes.

However, with everything else going well I'm still unable to attract women. Women have no attraction to me whatsoever. I'm tall, clean, wear nice clothes, and have at least a decent face to look at. Yet, women still say that I am very ugly. I tried getting to know a cute girl on campus, but she ignored me. I watch how my friends easily get women. Women are always checking them out and saying that they are cute and sexy.

At times I get jealous(I hide it) because I see some of my friends who do not try their best. I try really hard with no results. One of my friends is your stereotypical redneck student who dresses down, and looks dirty. All types of decent and good women find him to be very cute. In my group of friends the girls always say which guys they think are attractive, and I'm never one of those guys.

At this point I feel that plastic surgery is the only solution or at least my last attempt. To anyone who don't know me, I have an ear deformity. My ears are normal size, but are not attached to the side of my head. I have no options to hide them. I went to a doctor last Tuesday for an appointment. All of the paper work has been filled out and sent to my insurance. I should get a reply between two weeks to a month. My insurance only covers the surgery on a case by case trail.

I went to a school counselor a few weeks ago. He high recommends surgery to solve my problem.

You're ears stick out to the side and aren't back against your head? If that's the case my friend in first grade had surgery to fix it and for months after he had to wear a headband to keep his ears back against his head. It worked great for him. Another thing though is maybe you are trying to hard and it is noticed. Trying to look nice is one thing but if people can tell you're trying to hard in social situations it isn't usually an attractive quality.. more of a turn off than anything. So you can get your ears fixed if that's what you'd like but when you're on the seen be your natural self. It may take time to find compatible dating prospects but you'll know the ones attracted to you will like you for you and not some front you put on.

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

I mean by "trying harder" is by taking care of myself to be the best person I can be. It has nothing to do with social situations.

If my insurance says no to the surgery then I won't have any options.

[Brandye]

There are the quiet girls who check you out without being obvious. Some of the so-called bookworms or brainy ones do not let it show as much. Still waters do run deep! Talk to the women who are considered wallflowers or seem not to be socially aggressive. Their hormones are functioning as well as the big-busted cheerleaders - and we are more interesting (in addition to being ....).

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

I wouldn't mind dating a brainy girl. However, the ones on campus dress extremely conservative and lack a lot of social skills. I find those qualities to be very unattractive.

[Brandye]

OK, Franklin, I am impressed that you have begun to do things for yourself. But this sounds like the beginning of the same old track you replayed for us time after time: ask for suggestions and then systematically refute everything suggested to you. I am utterly done with you.

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

I'm sorry you are frustrated. Let me ask you a few questions. Would you date someone who has no social skills? Would you date someone who dresses like someone's grandmother? I highly doubt it.

I do want someone who is smart. Early last spring I was interested in a brainy girl. Unlike the majority of the brainy girls on campus, this girl was not socially awkward. She did not have any interest in me, and ignored me.

However last spring there was another brainy girl who was interested in me, but I had no attraction for her. She was fat, boring, and....black. No offense to anyone, but I'm not attracted to most black women. Although I am open to date women of all races. I prefer white girls. This girl had nothing interesting to say. She was obese. I'm not attracted to someone who is unable to take care of her body. She has no social skills. There was a party at work and everyone was having fun except her. She did not join in conversations and jokes with everyone.

Or did I misunderstand your concept of a brainy girl?

[nuttychick]

Hope the new comers do a little research on our Frankie before jumping in and helping

[g-dubz]

I've been lurking here for a while and after reading all of your posts, I've come to the conclusion that maybe there isn't something wrong with you but maybe with everyone else. You have a 3.0, you work out, changed your wardrobe, and you've improved your social skills (you don't seem to have a woe-is-me attitude anymore). What you need to do is to focus on doing you: keep your grades up and continue to stay in shape and involved and not deal with those lame tricks on your campus.

And once you graduate, try and get the hell out of the OC ASAP (you're still in the OC aren't you?) and find a place where the women aren't as stuck up and superficial.

And don't get plastic surgery. As EEK said, if you have to change your physical appearance then obviously these women aren't for you. Just my .02

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

Hi g-dubz! Welcome to the forums! Please stay active!

I don't live in the OC. I live in Tennessee. I will probably move after I graduate. I've lived in the same city for 21 years, and I would like to branch out to get new experiences.

Plastic surgery is not out of the question. It's the only option I currently have left to change to better myself. There's nothing wrong with anyone in this situation. I can't force someone to be physically attracted to me. I can't expect different results by doing or keeping the same features.