Unwanted prejudice

[Ozzy5]

Weird to ask this a bit but I cannot figure out what to do. I want to ask this girl out as soon as I can be more sure of how she feels which seems more and more likely each day. Anyways there is a problem I want to address before I do anything. She is Pakistani and my family coincidentally is uh white supremacist. And because of that I am pretty sure I would be thrown out for dating her, then there is my dad who I visit on weekends that I could move in with (that would suck though) and while he is racist he isn't that much to where he is against interracial relationships. However I am pretty sure that she is Muslim which of course because he is a Republican he hates Muslims thinking they are evil and blah, blah, blah, whatever so I probably couldn't live there either. Does anyone know how I could deal with this?

[Feynman]

It depends on how old you are of course. But the obvious answer is to find a place of your own and start a life separate from your family. Not just for this girl, but to simply get away from such a hateful place. It seems like you do not share your parents beliefs so it may be time to start a life on your own.

[raunchy gal]

yes i agree with feynman,there has been too much hate and racial vilification already in this world and it's time for you to stand up and be counted and show your family that you are not like them.There's good and bad in everyone and you have the right to be with whomsoever you choose.Disassociate your self from these racial bigots you call family immediately!!

[Ozzy5]

Unfortunately I am only 16 so there really are not very many options out there for me. Even if I could manage to legally emancipate myself there is still the problem of where I would live. The only place that I would be able to afford to move to while having a job which would probably ruin my grades itself is with my brother but he is a white supremacist too. :/

[Feynman]

It all depends on how much you want to. I moved out of home around the same age you are now. It is possible but not that easy. You can take the High School Proficiency Exam and then take classes at a Junior College while working full time. Its not easy, but there is the option. I'm in California so I am very familiar with the proses here but i'm sure there is a way to do it where ever you are as well. Otherwise I don't see many more options with how to deal with your family in this situation. You can try and keep the relationship a secret from them but that has its own troubles.

[Brandye]

Look, you are sixteen. Girlfriends may come and go but you are stuck with relatives, at least until you graduate. In a few years when you move out, new decisions can be made. Is it possible that the forbidden fruit adds to the appeal? Why not be friends with her and see what may happen over the next few years.

In the meantime, see the movie "Bend It Like Beckham." It may represent English society but racism is racism no matter which side of the pond.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Be aware that being her friend may be possible, but HER family might fight tooth and claw to prevent you DATING her.

Whites are NOT the only race afflicted with racism.

[Ozzy5]

Originally Posted by Brandye

Look, you are sixteen. Girlfriends may come and go but you are stuck with relatives, at least until you graduate. In a few years when you move out, new decisions can be made. Is it possible that the forbidden fruit adds to the appeal? Why not be friends with her and see what may happen over the next few years.

In the meantime, see the movie "Bend It Like Beckham." It may represent English society but racism is racism no matter which side of the pond.

This isn't just about her but I do really like her and not because she is Pakistani and I would kick myself for not doing anything because of some bigots. I am sick of living in this fucking house with racist assholes! I just can't stand when they say their genocidal shit especially during holidays when they all get together like a klan meeting which I have been asked to go to a few times by them and I can't say anything for fear of death because they really would probably would kill me.

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Be aware that being her friend may be possible, but HER family might fight tooth and claw to prevent you DATING her.

Whites are NOT the only race afflicted with racism.

Well the thing about that is while I may not be sure if she is Muslim I am sure that her parents are as they have made pilgrimage to Mecca. And the thing about Muslims are unless they in Nation of Islam you aren't really going to see a racist Muslim.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Not see a "racist" Muslim?!?!? HAH! Ask your nearest rabbi about that. the emnity isn't just about religion or politics, my friend.

EVERYONE is in some way and to some extent "racist".

Which is odd since we are all of the same race, when the term is correctly used, that is to say, homo sapiens sapiens, even if the sapiens is frequently in doubt.

[Ozzy5]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Not see a "racist" Muslim?!?!? HAH! Ask your nearest rabbi about that. the emnity isn't just about religion or politics, my friend.

EVERYONE is in some way and to some extent "racist".

Which is odd since we are all of the same race, when the term is correctly used, that is to say, homo sapiens sapiens, even if the sapiens is frequently in doubt.

Oh god not this stuff again. If the racism you are talking about is Antisemitism then you are a bit mislead since Arabs are Semitic and one that I talk to that lived in Saudi Arabia even said herself that they do not hate Jews. Just Zionists.

Whatever if "everybody is in some way racist" these people here still want to kill anyone who is not white and they express it often.