To soon?

[dave24]

I have a question, some time has past since my last post, and me and my GF are getting along great, in fact better then great as things couldn't be better as we both see a future together, even long term. But I do have something I want to ask.

I love her, but we have only been together 3 months, which is still not that long. I want to tell her, but part of me is worried about how she may react, would she be happy and accepting, or think I am creepy for saying it so soon. I want to know what people think here, should I tell her soon, or wait another couple months to be sure we still have strong feelings for each other, like say our 4 or 6 month anniversary or something? All opinions welcome.

[DirtDriver]

3 months? Shit man...give it time. Is the male sexual biology changing or what?

You've got new pussy and you're infactuated with the girl. Its not love. Talk to me in 3 years, then you'll find out if its love.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by dave24

I have a question, some time has past since my last post, and me and my GF are getting along great, in fact better then great as things couldn't be better as we both see a future together, even long term.

It is good to know that the two of you are getting along "better than great".

But I do have something I want to ask. I love her, but we have only been together 3 months, which is still not that long.

"Love"? Maybe, but it could also be infatuation or lust. I would look these words up in the dictionary and get a clear definition of the three. Three months is a mighty short time to determine that you are in love. My suggestion is to continue to be friends and to date and to watch your relationship evolve over the next six months. It may last, although, it very well may not.

I want to tell her, but part of me is worried about how she may react, would she be happy and accepting, or think I am creepy for saying it so soon.

"I want to tell her--" what? Saying what so soon? That "I love you"?

I do not have any idea how she will react to the information; however, my vote is to wait several more months and look at how things are going.

I want to know what people think here, should I tell her soon, or wait another couple months to be sure we still have strong feelings for each other, like say our 4 or 6 month anniversary or something? All opinions welcome.

Show her by your actions that you have strong feelings for her. Tell her that you like her VERY much. Tell her that you are "in like" with her! Love? Let things gel between you before falling in love so easily.

[EvilEvilKitten]

WAIT!!!

IF you say anything about LOVE this soon, she's going to say CREEPY!
Back off, buddy and give the lady some room, dammit. She barely knows you! You barely know her.

I'm with DD about this.

3 months does NOT a relationship make and yes, it has to be a relationship before you start talking about love.
2 YEAR minimum.

[Qplezsthawife]

Originally Posted by DirtDriver

3 months? Shit man...give it time. Is the male sexual biology changing or what?

You've got new pussy and you're infactuated with the girl. Its not love. Talk to me in 3 years, then you'll find out if its love.

haha......He said it all

[RedRoses]

Dear Dave, Everything the others have mentioned is very true... Love is really easily mixed up with lust. It could take you 6 months up to 1 year to 'loose' those hormons that initially set you on fire(!) This video is quite clear about the stages of a romantic relationship (though it is a bit de-romanticizing, esp when you're in the first stages ) The Life Cycle Of A Relationship (Love & Dating: Committed Relationships)

All this aside; I think it's sweet you want to tell your girl that you love her After all; the meaning of love isn't at all that limited (no dictionary is going to help you with that!). Perhaps there's lust going on... Perhaps you're totally idealizing her right now... So what! Does that make you 'feel' any different? So why not tell someone you love her, when that's the way you feel? People do it all the time; even when they have a crush, they send 'I-love-you'-cards. You don't have to fall down on your knees telling her! Just after a little hug or whatever time seems appropriate. Maybe you don't want to go heavily on the future-part, but still: maybe she's just as dreaming about that as you are... You could make the meaning as light or as heavy as you'd want it to be.

The thing you're pointing out: will she freak out? That's impossible to say since I don't know your girl! I guess you'd better judge this yourself. Personally, though it is impossible to compare one relationship to another, I wouldn't have freaked out if my bf had told me after about 3 months. In fact: I think that's just around the time I hesitatingly told him. He told me things such as 'you're so sweet' or 'I adore you' and I thought he might think 'I love you' was too much... He didn't think that at all! He just feels like 'I love you' sounds so formal. So he still uses those other phrases till this day! It's the meaning of the words that count, not the words itself. In my opinion, people worry to much and speak too little with the voice of their heart... (and yes: I can't say I'm not one of them, but I try )

Ok, so now you have been given some thoughts of the 'romantic-yet-always-hungry-for-analysis' type of girl as well
Hope this post will help you. Good luck!

[usmc8706]

Im honestly surprised so many people are against it. I'm not saying its a good idea to jump into saying "love" but my husband and I only knew each other for 3 months when we got married and we've been married 2 1/2 years and my husbands parents only knew each other for 3 weeks and they have been married about 40 years. My marriage definitly isn't perfect but no marriage is. But we are still very in love, we have 2 children together and we both know we made the right decision, I know it was very sporatic and could of ended up being bad. As for my in-laws, I've never seen any couple more in love! Don't misunderstand, I'm not saying you guys are in the same situation we were. Maybe we should of waited but I believe we would of still gotten married, we just skipped the dating mess lol.

[shinji]

I think you should do it, I told my GF just recently, and she was thrilled. Only after I said it, and she repeated it, did she say she was worried I wasn't ready for that yet, cause apparently she said it before but I missed it cause it was in a whisper after a situation in her building. We have only been dating for 2 months and 3 weeks, next week marks 3 months since we started dating. If you feel like you have genuine feelings for her, then go for it. And as other posters said above, love can mean many different things, so be sure you think it is what you want it to be as.

[EvilEvilKitten]

shinji and usmc - how many quickie marriages FAIL? It takes time to get to know someone (not all people are transparent), to get to know yourself and to understand what you're feeling; besides which - THERE'S NO NEED TO RUSH and lots of reasons to go slowly.

Softly, softly, catches monkey.

Think of this as "hunting" and NOT scaring the game.

I married my husband after 3 years and have been with him for 32 years which is not nearly long enough!