Kinda awkward and needing advice

[midnightroseskiss]

Im awkward. Ive just been so use to be the best friend that when a guy actually shows interest in me, I dont know how to act.

There is this guy that I think I could really like but Im not sure what to do I guess you could say. He's 5.5 years older than I am and lives about an hour in half away from me. We went on this kinda meet up date at disneyland and it was great. He kept telling me he liked me and that I was cute and stuff and I just blushed....a lot. Im not sure how to act.

I have no idea what to do next. I dont want to text him too much to make it seem like im desperate or anything but I dont know what to do now. I want to let him know that I like him too.

[dancingdoc2]

Forget texting. Forget E-mail. Forget cellphones in the beginning. Use that old fashioned contraption called a telephone! The two of you need to "communicate" by voice and learn to read vocal inflections instead of what may or may not be between the lines of written text.

Give him your land line telephone number and ask him to telephone you occasionally (not every day and not to talk for hours on end often with "dead air" silent periods). Ask for his number(s) just in case you need or want to telephone him later on. If or when a conversation drags on do not be afraid to tell him you have to go, then bid him good night or any appropriate pleasantries, and hang up.

As for what to say and/or do, the safe answers are:
* be pleasant and approachable
* do not be in too big a hurry to tell all
* ask him leading questions about himself, hobbies, and other interests. Do not expect everything at once. Give information and get information a little with each date or phone conversation.
* tell him a few things about you and your hobbies and interests.
By exchanging these bits of information both of you can decide early on whether or not this is a person you want to keep dating and learn more about--especially since you are an hour and a half apart.

None of us are mind readers so volunteer information on what might be some good things to do on a date. Help the lad out, especially when it comes to movies and types of cuisine.

Observe his behavior, topics of discussion, manner of speech, etc.

Keep in mind that the purpose for dating is to learn what humanity has to offer us in potential mates. Dating should not begin and end with the first warm body who expresses an interest in us. The first date and the next few should be about having a good time and learning whether or not there should be a next date--and a next. When the answer is no, move on.

Blushing is fine; however, do some practice exercises in which you come up with some replies for compliments. Say "thank you" after receiving a compliment. If appropriate, use the compliment to gain more information from him. Are you normally a chatty person? A lot of girls/women are by nature. If so, you have an open door; although do not monopolize the conversation and talk for half an hour. So, while it is OK to be tongue-tied not knowing what to say in order to hold up your end of a conversation, it is not alright to not have a small library of things to ask and talk about. Think about his beforehand.

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-doc

[Brandye]

Wait a few days; send him a text saying how pleasant the time was; see what happens.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Don't tell us that you like him - TELL HIM that you like him.

"I like you."

Of course, you're not 'desperate'. Desperate means that you'd tell him yes even though you really want to say no because "you have to have a bf and almost any guy will do". Desperate is running after guys who neither respect nor like you. THIS guy likes you and said so. So now it is YOUR turn.

If you like him, tell him that. If you don't like him, tell him that.
Either way, it is your decision to make - time to step up and grow up.

[The_Justine]

"Hey, what's up? I really enjoyed spending time with you in Disneyland. It was great - You were great. Let's do it again sometime... say, Thursday?"

What's the worst that could happen. He's not interested? Then you won't see him again.

What will happen if you don't come out of the bushes and tell him that you like him? He will think you're not interested. Then you won't see him again.


We tend to think about all these crazy and awful things that could happen if we get rejected. Truth is that most of the time the same thing happens if we don't do anything at all.

IF we get a rejection then at least we get closure. If we just don't do a thing about it we can go and wonder about what could have been.

You lose 100% of the chances you don't take.

[midnightroseskiss]

So we have been talking , haven't really been able to get together because of the distance and apparently that's what he is most nervous about. The distance between us. I told him I was willing to make it work if he is.

[sensualGoddess]

so all, you have to do is wait for a confirmation...but keep on talking.

[dihatii]

the all members are right but my thinking is that if your heart is not present withu mean not accepting him keep doging with u u must free ur self

[sensualGoddess]

from what I'm taking, she's willing...but I'm also sensing doubts, even if things don't go the way you want them to, just try. because an attempt is better than nothing.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Doubts? Of course she has doubts! She's a kid and doubts are to be expected.
But having a faint heart gets one nowhere fast. My advice is:

Step up, step up and enjoy the ride!!