What exactly does she want from me. I'm getting mixed signals!

[Kitt]

Basically i told her i like her and she replied i don't think of you in that way your my buddy and her feelings will never change (bearing in mind she said she isn't ready for a relationship). But i get strange signals from her like when we were in a nightclub i caught her and someone she knew looking at me when i looked at her eyeline she looked away and they started talking to her.

She stays up late and when i ask why says she can't sleep. But we have long convos late at night and camera sesions can last till about 4 or 5, She will call me at silly o'clock to say whats on her mind when she cant be arsed to write it out, A few nights before we arranged to go out she was sending me links to clothes sites asking me what i thought of items of clothing. and when we went out the other week with my friend she was sat next to him talking and i came down and sat opposite and she came down and sat next to me moving purposley to sit next to me!

Basically i told her twice in one week that i liked her but one was a rough mixed up explanation to which she didnt say anything after i told her i liked her. The second time i asked if she ever has or does feel anything for me, she said you're my buddy and my friend and my feelings won't change.

But when i asked her i said "nah i can't i dont want to loose a friend", "Do you promise nothing will change?" (Because i just think these days if i like someone they are gaurenteed not to like me) Did me saying this infulence her desicion into saying that she wanted nothing more than friends, because if i knew she liked me i would ask her or WAIT till she is ready!

Also after i told her i liked her she rang me because she couldn't be botherd to type what she was gonna say just chatting shit, And she started commenting on statuses and posts on facebook which she hasn't done for a long time. so if you see what i mean she does all that and i'm thinking that she does like me, I'm not the only one with this impression i have shown parts of our conversations and they seem to think she likes me, and my friends said that the way she acts around me also seems to sugest she does.

I'm confused because i REALLY like her but is she just being friendly as what she said she seems to suggest, or does she like me? And i want to remain friends and not to change anything if she doesnt like me. But before she had something on her mind and i said whats up? her response was "nah don't worry about it it will change things between us, I'm fine with friends" I'm confused help?

I'm sorry i was doing several thing at the same time when i was writing this so if things make no sense i'm sorry. I'm no wizzard with words normally LOL anyway any help is much appreciated

[EvilEvilKitten]

She likes you as a friend. She's in fact too young to be "dating" anyone. Stop hitting on her and just let it ride.
Save your advances for girls who are ready to make a decision yeah or nay.

[dancingdoc2]

Yup, EEK beat me to the punch. You are investing way to much time and effort into something she has clearly stated is not of interest to her. What part of "NO" do you not understand?

Dating is all about going out with as many people as you can in order to learn what humanity has to offer us in potential mates--or not. The more people you date the better able you will be to recognize those qualities you value in someone, and, for when Ms. Right comes along.

You tried to get a relationship started with this girl and she has refused. Give it up. You are making a BIG albeit common mistake in that you are trying to get and have "a girlfriend", instead of going on dates with one or more people. The point that you and many others are missing is that you can have your proverbial cake and eat it too, meaning, you can have all the benefits of an exclusive relationship without it having been declared as such.

I urge you to simply go on dates, enjoy each others company and the activities you do together without having to have exclusivity or ownership. If something more is to come of the friendship, it will in do time. If not, move on.

Final word: Go on as many dates as possible with as many people as possible. Some dates will last one time, others two or three, a few will last and last--and eventually one or two people will become keepers. Let any relationship happen as a natural extension of the friendship instead of trying to establish a boyfriend/girlfriend arrangement from the onset without any real foundation. You will have more fun, do more things, yet still have a sense of belonging, all without the potential for drama and trauma that often results from a closed relationship.

[EvilEvilKitten]

mixed signals = move on

[Sekcboi85]

The ironic part of Doc's and EEK's advice is that it will probably make this girl feel more attracted to you. If you stop giving her all your attention, and start dating other people, she will notice, and she will wonder why she isn't important enough for you to be all "Googoo gaga" over her anymore.

That shouldn't be your main goal though, but its a very nice side effect.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Oddly enough - yes, you're right. She'll think you're more of a 'man'.
It is incredibly silly, of course.

Still - the rule applies, to both genders. Mixed signals = move on.