Is she done with me?

[duh477]

This girl that has wanted to go out with me for about 4 years I finally started to a few month ago and now she just doesnt seem intersted anymore. I told her that I wanted to be with her and asked if she would give me a chance and she said maybe and everytime I ask her to hangout or go somewhere she always has an excuse. Should I just ask her upfront if she has any interest in me anymore or what the deal is? Im 22 she is 21

[dancingdoc2]

She has given you her answer even though it is not direct.

> This girl that has wanted to go out with me for about 4 years I finally started to a few month ago and now she just doesnt seem intersted anymore.

Have you read any of my replies that talk about dating? The purpose of dating is to learn all about what humanity has to offer. Dating should not begin and end with the first warm body who expresses an interest in us. Dating should involve lots of people either one after the other or a couple at a time in order to learn about the various characters, likes, dislikes, goals, morals, interests, values, and so on so that when Ms./Mr. Right does come along we will be better able to recognize the person by having learned what we want in a potential mate.

She finally had the opportunity to date you, decided for whatever reason that you are not a match for her, and now she has decided to move on. No harm, no foul, it is simply how dating is done; although, she should have had the good manners to tell you that she is no longer interested in you.

So, just leave her alone, smile and say hello should you meet on the street, and move on and find someone else to date and continue the process. Don't bug her. You may find that among the people you date in the future one or more will not be a fit for you and so you will want to stop dating this person and move on. Lesson learned: be nice and tell her so she does not have to wonder if you are going to call or why you have not.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Oh well, if you'd ignored me, trampled on my ego, sneered at my desires for 4 years then I'd not want to go out with you either. (Good manners? Yeah. Right. You got off lightly.) You completey deserve what you have gotten. Enjoy it.

Just because you NOW chose to see her and have decided, perhaps because no one else is getting your attention or giving you any attention, she's suitable is no reason for her to want to have anything to do with you. That was then and she paid for it..as I explained above.

Guys, if the lady wants you NOW you have to decide NOW and stick to it. You can't say NO and then come back years later and expect to find her waiting devoted for you or still desiring you. You are not the only man on the planet. Also, just as you have grown up some and come to realise her worth, she's grown up some and realised that you aren't worth all she had thought you were.

Yes, she's done with you.