Confused!!!

[sandy cheeks]

I so have a big problem, hope that you guys can help. Well I've been living with my sister and her husband for about 7 years. Ever since my sister's husband and I met we would kinda flirt with each other but never took it farther than that. One time we went out for drinks and almost kissed but we both backed down at the last minute. We talked about that night and decided that it wasn't a good idea.
Well last week we went out for drinks and I ended giving him oral. I initiated everything. I tried kissing him, but he would just push me away saying that we should do this. I kept on touching and grabbing him until I finally unzipped his pants and gave him a bj. He kept on saying that we shouldn't be doing this but he didnt do anything about it.
Now my question is should I tell my sister what we did or should we just keep it to ourselves. I really need your guys advice cause I don't know what to do

[maupassant]

I think you have not behaved kindly to your sister who has been your host for 7 years; the reasons why you needed such hospitality you don't say. If you think your sister has a good marriage then you should get out of town and not do any more damage. Your brother-in-law seems to be a bit of a wimp.

[lnt1103]

The first thing you need to do is move the hell out of that house. If you can't control yourself around the man your sister married, you need to not be living there.

[Brandye]

Two good responses already. Let me add: get out of the house and town and keep your mouth forever shut in their presence.

You are correct: It is YOUR problem.

[EvilEvilKitten]

NO - do NOT tell anyone anythng ever.
STOP DRINKING and STOP BEING A FOOL.

You NEED to get out of THEIR house and get on with bulding a life of your own NOW - RIGHT NOW.

[dancingdoc2]

Let's see, how about you being the sister, it is your husband, and she did this? What is your reaction?

I agree with the above. You are your own worst enemy. You are also theirs.

You have no respect for your sister, her husband, their marriage, their hospitality. Get your Black Widow persona far away from them ASAP & PDQ. Next get about rebuilding your own life separate and apart from anyone else.

This is simply disgusting........................................ .................................................. .................................................. ...........................................

P.S. The rule for deciding whether or not to inform someone of something is:

"Of what benefit is it for him/her to know?"

[Gibson52]

Better tell your sister you fell for him and you know it was wrong..maybe back up her husband that he kept saying we should not do this. There will be pain...but where there is love between sisters there could be peace (time is the answer) by informing her. Otherwise if she finds out later she may think you stayed to foster a relationship with her husband. That would look worse, than coming clean with your confesssion to her.

[EvilEvilKitten]

No, no ,no -Gibson52 - sorry, but NO.

Confssion will only destroy. This has been extensively discused in a similar thread.

There are times when one can ONLY keep one's mouth shut. This is one of them.

[maupassant]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

No, no ,no -Gibson52 - sorry, but NO.

Confssion will only destroy. This has been extensively discused in a similar thread.

There are times when one can ONLY keep one's mouth shut. This is one of them.

I absolutely agree.

[EvilEvilKitten]

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