Age Difference...Just a Number?

[Carpe Diem]

I'm 59 years old...but look 15 years younger...and I'm very fit and athletic. I am a writer...and in the course of interviewing nearly 200 women for a book...I started a friendship with a much younger woman...She is 34. She is a gorgeous redhead...and looks like a young Ann Margaret. We became very close over nearly a year...she was in the midst of a divorce...and there was always this strong attraction...which intensified over time. Finally, the sexual tension and attraction climaxed this summer during a picnic when we made love. We see each other as often as we can...once every couple weeks...she's in Florida...I live in Washington, D.C. Our sex together is incredible...we both admit...the best we have ever experienced. We both care for each other a great deal...professed our love. I can clearly make her life more comfortable than what she has ever experienced...though she's not very materialistic at all. The concern - more mine than hers - because we have talked about it is the age difference. I mean, it is 25 years! She laughs and says she can't believe the difference. While I don't want my own children...she has three...4, 9 and 11. That doesn't bother me in the least. In terms of activities, interests, sexual performance...she says I appear more her age. She says I am worldly - I travel extensively - have a successful career and she likes the confidence, stability and wisdom of an older man. No one can really make a decision for us, but what does everyone think about such an age difference. Problem? Issue?

[Brandye]

Nearly twenty years ago, I began a few times a year liaison with a colleague from another area. We see each other a few times a year and usually spend a weekend together. He was a bit younger than you at the outset and is now in his early seventies. I was her age.

We never considered marriage. He cared for an invalid wife for many years. No children involved in the relationship. I am now in my early fifties and he in the early seventies. He, frankly, cannot keep up any longer and I am not speaking just sexually. I am not bound to the relationship in any way (other than friendship) and, in fact, have been with another bi-woman much of the time.

At your age I do not know how I would feel about having three pre-teens move in. Looking ahead, she will eventually be married to an old man. I would strongly urge each of you to seek out some help in unraveling what you each, personally, bring to and get from this relationship as projected ahead fifteen years. Certainly, it can work - well. There are many red flags that cannot be sorted out online.

[EvilEvilKitten]

25 years is a trifle much but if you two are strong and deeply committed you will be able to build a life together. It will be hard and many will consider you odd; "grandpa" when you're Dad, for example. So think long and hard and make a decision. Good luck!!

[funinthesun]

As soon as I finished reading this post "Forever Young" started playing on the radio, heh.

[vixen74]

I don't think age matters at all as long as you have things in common and are on the same wavelength , understand each others expectations etc Age is just a number after all!

[Gibson52]

If your compatable and really enjoy each others company..then there is not enough difference in your ages to matter.