my boyfriend left but didnt leave the keys

[rhymth-of-tears]

hi,im new to this but i wanted some feedback..my boyfrien packed his stuff and left so sudden..i called him for anwsers and all he said to me was "IM SICK IF THIS SHIT"well in the past 2 years i kicked him out 3 times and then always call him back crying to come back,well he did.,.this time he left me so sudden, no signs we were getting along fine atleast i thought...he took all his stuff exept his shower gell,. and took the house keys.,.with him now i havent heard from him in 4 days and he onle is 4 houses away from me,.,i know in my heart he is not with another woman,.but i am being strong not to call because he left me..,and im thinking this time its for real but why did he take the house keys with him,.is he still trying to keep this relationship open,.maybe he wants some time.,.i really dont understand we have been in this relationship for 8 years, i have children, but he dont..anyway does anyone have any advice please help

[EvilEvilKitten]

Yes, I have some advice: STOP DEFINING WHO YOU ARE USING HIM.
And grow a spine!

Change the locks.
Change your phone numbers, and your passwords.
Take his name off of all accounts.
Care for your children and put them and their needs ahead of yours.

You have to build an individual satsfying life of your own before you can invite anyone else to join with you.

Also stop running after men.
When you do that, you signal that you don't think you're worth their time.
Make him work for it. Men don't appreciate what comes easily.

This particular guy just walked out without even bothering to say goodbye - LET HIM GO!

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Yes, I have some advice: STOP DEFINING WHO YOU ARE USING HIM.
And grow a spine!

Change the locks.

IMMEDIATELY IF NOT SOONER!

Change your phone numbers, and your passwords.

Even if you do not believe he has them, and, especially if he does.

Take his name off of all accounts.

Or close existing accounts and open new ones

Care for your children and put them and their needs ahead of yours.

You have to build an individual satisfying life of your own before you can invite anyone else to join with you.

Relationships should be partnerships. The foundation for a great relationship is formed when two autonomous adults join together in order to form a life much greater then the sum of its two parts.

Relationships are not what we do to each other; relationships are what we do with and for....

Relationships should be formed because the two people want more out of life than what is available individually. Do not enter into a relationship believing you can "fix" problems with the other partner. You cannot.

Also stop running after men.
When you do that, you signal that you don't think you're worth their time.
Make him work for it. Men don't appreciate what comes easily.

This particular guy just walked out without even bothering to say goodbye - LET HIM GO!

Be polite when you meet him, do not go out of your way to engage him in conversation.

Before entering into a relationship become a whole person, first. Do not expect someone else will "complete 'me'."

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[Brandye]

As little miss echo, I shall emphasize, as doc has, Evil's four major points. The locks should already be changed.

That is three of us. All "older" members. Any questions?

[jojobeans]

i think this jerk wants to come & go as he pleases.. maybe he wants his cake & eat it too.. you should really get over him & move on... he sounds like a real loser to me..

[Newtolove]

why did you throw him out 3 times ? if he has been the problem and has now left of his own accord then yes change the locks and have nothing to do with him unless neccesary