not enough affection

[duh477]

Ive only been dating a girl for a few weeks now, but she has known me for over 5 years and begged me to go out with her. I dated around and decided that she was the best of the bunch. I dont understand why she doesnt show me more affection if she wanted me so much. I always have to hug, kiss or touch her when we are laying in bed she doesnt ever just grab me or hold my hand or touch me She lets me do it to her but shes not affectionate to me. I really wish she would do this type of stuff, I dont even try for sex because I just dont think shes ready eventhough she's had bf's Is there anyway I could ask her to be more loving towards me? Or am i just insecure?

[EvilEvilKitten]

You're gettng mixed messages so, no, you're not being insecure - personally, you're just wondering what she's playing at. Frankly, so am I - if it is as you say. What is WRONG is you NOT seeing how your attitude toward her "the best of the bunch" could be making her act the way she is.

Females intuit attitude almost instinctively; if she feels you're not "into her"" - she will shut down.

It sounds like she's gotten her wish and doesn't know what to do with it now that she has it because it isn't as great as she thought it woud be.

What to do about it is - ASK HER what's going on in her mind.

[Rouge]

Tell her everything you wrote up here, and see what she says.