Having issues and need advice.

[EvilEvilKitten]

STOP

Do not meet with her, do not talk, text, or be online with her. Do not answer her phone calls, letters, or have ANYTHING more to do with her - EVER.

As far as this child-woman is concernd, you have dropped off the face the planet. She no longer exists.

You have gotten hold of a psycho. The ONLY way to get rid of one - is to "poof"" disappear. So do that. DISAPPEAR. She is not your love, she is 'the enemy'. This may sound ungallant but you cannot fix anyone.

Please learn from this and stop dating one person at a time. Stop being exclusive and get out there. Develop your radar. Be more willing to say goodbye to those who are unsuitable.

[shinji]

I'm sorry EvilKitten, but I didnt get to read your post before I actually did meet with her. and as expected, it was bad, horrible even.

I went in there with a firm head and ready to say that it is over, we are done. But somehow, in a way I cannt even begin to describe, I didn't dump her. Instead, we decided to wait to december 19th, our one year anniversery, to see if we can improve our relationship, and it is only after I got home, and jumped into the shower did I realize that I am a tool.

I was tricked and fooled, and as my brother so eloquently describe it, I am her tool and need to end it now.

Now, I am just waiting, waiting for the first excuse I can get to dump her without looking like the bad guy to my friends.

As you can all tell, I have never had a relationship before, this is my first and my first experience with an actual female, but still, thats no excuse for me being so stupid. I am tired of the drama in her life and i feel used and manipulated.

[nuttychick]

Originally Posted by shinji

Now, I am just waiting, waiting for the first excuse I can get to dump her without looking like the bad guy to my friends.
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"Madame EEK" would use these words and I hope she won't mind me using them

ARE YOU MAN OR MOUSE?
Dump her she is a psycho .NOW... Forget what your friends will think..
If they are true friends they won't "give a shit", If they give you grief dump them too...

Time to man up, me thinks
Many more fish in the sea.. So get out and cast your line

[Rouge]

It's as simple as this:

"I know we said that we'd wait, but we'd only be wasting each other's time. I don't want to be in this relationship anymore, and I'm not going to wait to end it."

Then break off all contact.

[EvilEvilKitten]

SERIOUSLY - Just STOP.

NOW, do not wait. You do not have to say anything at all. Forget being a "good guy" or "nice guy" Forget all of that.

Just Stop.

Because you are being used and manipulated.

[shinji]

I am going to end it. I am frankly tired of being manipulated and used as an emotional and mental punching bag.

She actually says she has bi-polor disorder, and I've heard some stories about that, and frankly, the fact she just brings it up now, of all times, tells me she is either desperate, or something else.

Unfortunitly, to break it off, I have to wait till next monday, as she will be out of contact from where she lives, and I can't just ignore her, as there are quite a few problems with that option.

[Timtim]

am in love with this guy that i have been seeing for the past 10 months, problem is am not sure if he loves me too cos he hasn't said anything about it. he has taken me to his apartment several times and whenever i go there, i find a woman's pants or bra or dress in his closet, he completely doesnt hide them. when i ask, he says he never calls that gal over she just surprises him, he also says the gal loves him but when asked if he loved her too, he says he doesnt know. we have a great sex life, but am confused, jow do i tell that he loves and wanrs me for something morethan sex. i can feel that he loves me when am with him from his touch, the way he talks to me but how accurate are these feelings?

[Rouge]

Those feelings aren't accurate at all. The feelings you get from his touch etc are your body reacting to his. You're attracted. You ask him. There's no easier way to go about it. Obviously he's stringing the other girl along for sex, and she's said that she loves him. Don't let yourself be girl #2. Ask him point blank, and don't take "I don't know" for an answer. If he says no, move on and don't waste the love. If he says yes, you can work from there. I'm warning you, there's a high chance that he'll try to weasel out of it so that he doesn't have to answer you, and can keep getting sex. IMO, you're being used.

[EvilEvilKitten]

JEEZ! How many times Do I have to say this?

DO NOTWAIT!
DO NOT SPEAK!
DO NOT HAVE ANYTHING ELSE WHATSOEVER TO DO WITH HER, PERIOD!!!


If she held a gun to your head, which she kinda is, would you feel compelled to "express regrets that it didn't work out and wish herwell for next time la a la la la"?

ARE YOU AN IDIOT?

What you do now is = RUN !!!

And make good your escape.

TIMTIM - it is just infatuation and lust, nothing more.

[shinji]

I understnad EvilKitten, I really do, but there are certain circumstances.

Her sister is in another class of mine. We would run into each other anyway and she would ask why i haven't been contacting her. I literally could not escape that.

Frankly, I am done with all the drama that goes on in this relationship and all the crap I've been through. I am breaking up, one way or another. After that, who knows what will happen.