Do not understand

[sunshowers]

Met a cute guy randomly on a train. Talked for hours. Good chemistry. Have kissed...it was nice.
Been in contact a lot, went out a couple times the week after coming back. He texts everyday, sometimes even calls.
However, whenever I invite him to do something with me he turns me down or ignores me.
What gives??

[EvilEvilKitten]

Move on - this one isn't ready to get involved. A couple of single responses saying "Thats nice." should get the message across. If he asks what's wrong, tell him what you told us.

Other than that - the best advice is: ASK HIM!

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by sunshowers

Met a cute guy randomly on a train. Talked for hours. Good chemistry. Have kissed...it was nice.
Been in contact a lot, went out a couple times the week after coming back. He texts everyday, sometimes even calls.
However, whenever I invite him to do something with me he turns me down or ignores me. What gives??

Have you asked him? Essential to any good relationship is communication.

His behavior seems to me to be that of a casual friend. He enjoys interacting with you, yet on his terms and time table. Unless he tells you differently, my continued guess is that you are simply another of his "boy toys" that he plays with from time to time.

He does not see you in a romantic way, therefore there is (yet) no "chemistry" or pheromones flying between you, and not enough interest in you as a person to interact more than superficially.

What to do? That is the question only you can answer. I agree with EEK.

[sunshowers]

He was the one chomping at the bit initially. I think things turned around when I said I wasn't comfortable having sex with him after knowing him for a week.
His loss.
I've stopped returning his communications...if he gives a crap he will ask what is up.

[dancingdoc2]

You read those signs accurately. Funny, guys will say and do and be Mr. Congeniality until they hear "No". Then as you have witnessed, they are Mr. Cool as in coolish.

Well, that is what happens when you date, just keep on dating and see who turns up next. This is how the game is played.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Unfortunately, you two played the standard game and now you'e locked into it. He won't call back and you'll congratulate yourself on having had a lucky escape. Right or wrong, it is an opportunity lost.

[sunshowers]

Now see that's what I think! But how do I undo that! I asked him if things were weird, he said no. We still talk, but neither of us seems to be likely to invite the other one to go do something. I would, but after being shot down so many times...

[EvilEvilKitten]

You've done all you can. Now it is his turn - if he doesn't, the he's the one who has lost, not you.

Time to move along.

[Rouge]

MOVE ON

First sign: He changed after the boundary of sex was put up. Find a guy who will be around you for the sake of it, don't rush for a relationship, and let things go their course. Looking for a guy specifically for a relationship will get you into trouble. Look for a friend, then see where things go. Make many friends, and see where things go.