4 months in - sex isn't materializing

[EvilEvilKitten]

I'm all in favor of giving a decent man a decent chance but if he blows his chance - sorry.

There is one item that must be made clear however: SEX is always by her choice.

[adultdater]

I realise this thread is a bit old, but these points may help other people with the same issues:

Ask yourself some basic questions:

1. How much more commitment are you willing to make in this relationship without getting any sexual benefits (yes, it's nice to have emotional benefits but men need more while some women can manage without)?

2. Is she testing you (as some people are saying), or is she just not in to you sexually? It's a very hard and tough question to ask, but one that you need to ask in order to move on with your life.

3. Is she having sex on the side? Which is why she may not be open to having sex with you? Women are hard to understand - sometimes they won't have sex with one guy for 4 months, but will have a one night stand with another.

4. What do you want out of this relationship? Do you want sex, or do you just want intimacy / friendship / emotional connection / etc? If sex must be part of the equation and you're not getting it after 4 months (I've known some guys to go even longer), then maybe you both want different things, and it's time to move on.

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