4 months in - sex isn't materializing

[Newtolove]

hate to say it again but sounds just like a girl i used to see, she'd screw any guy on a one night stand but me who gave her so much attention i only got as far as fingering her and giving her orgasm after orgasm whilst I got a bad handjob back.

Yea either she is testing you or has time to kill like in my case

[Soph92]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Dear Soph - and you should consider WHY you want/need this "act of love" when there's little wrong with lust itself.

You can make friends and build relationships both with and without sex, but the sex should be a mutual pleasure and not be a tool/weapon.

Agreed, Int.

1) If I just wanted sexual gratification I could buy a vibrator.

2) I am happier waiting to have sex with somebody I care for (and am sure it is reciprocated) because I know him and his history, and don't have to worry as much about STDs. If in the unlikely event I fell pregnant, I'd actually know who the father was.

3) I believe it makes him more appreciative of me (he's not telling his mates down the pub that I am a yo-yo knickered slut) and the act more special.

[EvilEvilKitten]

As difficult it may be for some to understand and to accept, women rule sex.

While most women are not as pragmatic and egotistical as I am, they would benefit from a more realistic and less romantic view of inter-gender relationships. His 'appreciation' of me is not as important as my 'appreciaition' of him.

[ten years gone]

Originally Posted by ten years gone

I lost her.

Thanks for the help anyways guys, didn't really have anyone I could talk to about this. Take care.

I've been stuck on this girl ever since. I tried to distance myself from her and she jumped into another relationship after a couple weeks. She seems to want to come back now and give it "her all" with me. Time will tell.

[EvilEvilKitten]

I'd say NOT, as in don't let her come back but that's just me.

[ten years gone]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

I'd say NOT, as in don't let her come back but that's just me.

I feel like I need to try again, maybe a glutton for punishment? I'm planning on having a long conversation about how we're going to do this better.

[EvilEvilKitten]

just remember to be adults this time: reponsible for yourselves and respectful of the other.

[ten years gone]

Yes mother

[EvilEvilKitten]

Sorry, but the correct form of address is "Oh Wondrous Feline of Darkness" or "Ma'am".

[Eforcer]

I've gone out with those types. And sex is there WMD! (Weapon Of Mass Destruction) It's on their time no questions ask. I don't fault them, but I move on knowing that a relationship based on maybe's is not a relationship at all!

JMO of course!