Warning Signs - Part One

[EvilEvilKitten]

Fortunately, I managed to avoid such idiots.

[KittenLover]

Ok this is bad, I see myself in alot of those from my past relationship (about 2 years agao now). I didn't realize what I was doing. But what I'm wondering is, I never did anything like that with my most recent ex, what does that mean? Was it maybe because I saw my incencuritys and discussed them with my partner? Or maybe it was the fact that my ex (the one from 2 years agao) was abusive twards me. I would like some input on the subject. I know my tendencies, my dad and uncle (I live with my uncle now) are both verbably abusive and I am a daddy's girl (he's not at all bad when he's sober wich is more often then not now a days) so I take it to heart, eventhough I know better, and when that happens I get really resentful and I just look for an arguement, and as I said before I was abused (sexually more then verbably) by my ex from 2 years agao, could this be a link I wonder? Otherwise I'm doing good with my incencuritys, and my trust issues.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Past abuse leads to more abuse; YES, of course it has something to do with your behavior.

The point is to to get pro medical help and to NOT make their issues, your issues.

You need to get on, get out, and get living the life YOU want to live.
Leaving the past and your abusers far far behind you.

[KittenLover]

Thanks I'm beginning to see this I'm just happy I can see this so I can do something about it

[Sekcboi85]

I got a question... What would you recommend to someone who thinks they are being somewhat abusive and showing some of those signs but they admit to it and want to get help?

[Massdebator]

I'm not EEK, but if you want to get help... Get help. A lot universities will have their own clinical psychologists on hand, so if you are a college student you can get counseling for free. Either way, counselors can teach you the "tools" (exercises and the like) you can use to keep your own behaviors in check. The important thing here is that the person you're referring to has a genuine desire to better themselves.

[EvilEvilKitten]

If you think you need help and want to get helped - call your local hotline or visit your local medical facility and ask, or go to the local police station and ask.

The point is: GET HELP ANY WAY YOU CAN NOW.