trying to start up again

[duh477]

I went out with a girl that I used to work with. She asked me to go out with her so I did. We only went out once I had a great time and I thought she did but I dont know for sure. I asked her a few more times but she said she was always busy so I stopped trying. I dont work with her anymore so I dont see her anymore. I have went out with a few other girls since then and I realized how much I liked her and missed her no other girls were as cool as she was. Should I contact her since its been over a year or should I just let her go? Should I ask her to go out sometime or let her know how I feel? How should I handle this?

[Babyycakkez]

i think you shoult tell her call her up maybe the second time will be better since you know you like her alot or realized you did

well thats my opinion it can become into a longterm relationship
shell see you havent forgotten about her and could be better

[EvilEvilKitten]

No. She made her opinion of you perfectly clear last year. A woman who is interested in you is never too busy to see you. Since she was always busy - she's not interested.

You will not interest every woman. Simply will not happen. So your wish to return to a non-relationship indicates a lack of current girlfriends to occupy your mind or a need to have your ego smashed to bits once again. Which is it, buddy?

Or do you really get offf on rejection?

[duh477]

but i just sort of stopped trying with her. She never said she didnt want to anymore. I was just thinking that if I ask her the worst she can do is say no and that would kind of give me some closure instead of always thinking about her. Or is that still wrong?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Look, guy, women don't like to come right out and say it - they prefer it if you TOOK THE HINT. Hey, FEMALE, they do not operate the same way you guys do - got it? In fact, they'll lie right to your face if you try to put them on the spot. "Yeah, I had a wonderful time!" even when she hated every minute of it, hated you, hated the clothes she was wearing, etc. etc. etc. Especially in this age group. It is called "letting the guy down easy". You had all the closure she felt was necessary - it was only the one date. Get over it already!

If she had wanted to be with you, she would have been with you then.

[arutha]

Originally Posted by duh477

but i just sort of stopped trying with her. She never said she didnt want to anymore. I was just thinking that if I ask her the worst she can do is say no and that would kind of give me some closure instead of always thinking about her. Or is that still wrong?

Listen to EEK here. If she was interested, she wouldn't have said she was busy all the time. If she was actually busy, she would have tried contacting you after you gave up on her. After a year, she has moved on and probably hardly even remembers you.

I was in the same position once, actually if I'm honest I still think about the girl sometimes, nothing you can do but occupy yourself with other girls. Then you won't even have time to think of her.