UK v US Dating

[curious Al]

Ok, so i've noticed that alot of the more senior members of the forums and from around the globe.

Questions are asked, then sometime conflicting answers come up. Culture obviously has something to do with how answers are given.

I think it would be interesting to see how "dating" occurs with the UK and US. If only to give a broader perspective to people loooking through the threads.

I know UK people dont quite date like they do in the US, but only from what iv grasped through films and TV...

So, any replies would be greatful!

[EvilEvilKitten]

It is a minor difference of accent.

[Hot_n_Horny]

I dont really quite understand what your trying to say here....as your being a bit prejudice against us from the UK.... just because films depict we dont date, doesnt mean we dont.
I dont really "date" as such, but i do go out with a lady (when i have one) to the cinema, ice rink, and meals....anything she really wants to do. Some people chose to do that, others dont, i guess its more personal preference, rather than national differences

[leeishere]

I have travelled the US a fair amount and dated a little whilst I was over there. Just like the UK attitudes change dependent on where you are and more importantly if it is a large city, smaller town or the middle of nowhere.

It is hard to generalise, and the only thing I would say for definate is that the drinking culture in the UK is on the whole far stronger than in the US. I met my partner in a pub (through a friend), and about half my friends have similar stories. I would daresay that meeting dates over a drink (or five) is a far more common story in the UK than in the US where drinking is not so much part of the culture, and frowned on in some circles.

Also having a UK accent in the US does amazing things for your pulling power!

[dancingdoc2]

An excellent set of observations, Lee.

[funinthesun]

Originally Posted by leeishere

I have travelled the US a fair amount and dated a little whilst I was over there. Just like the UK attitudes change dependent on where you are and more importantly if it is a large city, smaller town or the middle of nowhere.

It is hard to generalise, and the only thing I would say for definate is that the drinking culture in the UK is on the whole far stronger than in the US. I met my partner in a pub (through a friend), and about half my friends have similar stories. I would daresay that meeting dates over a drink (or five) is a far more common story in the UK than in the US where drinking is not so much part of the culture, and frowned on in some circles.

Also having a UK accent in the US does amazing things for your pulling power!

The drinking culture in the Midwest is similar, but drunker.

[EvilEvilKitten]

I haven't found the cultures that different because I'm the US visiting the UK and American women have a rep: fast, dangerous, and expensive. Most men, UK or US, tend toward diffidence when it is me.

But frankly, I was rather shocked at how UK boys treated UK girls! Name calling. Expecting her to serve him. Ordering her about in small ways.

[lnt1103]

I knew a girl in college who was born and raised in the US, and took a liking to a guy from another country, who returned the interest. She got incredibly angry with him when he called her a B**** one day, and he for the life of him couldn't understand her problem. He was also constantly calling his best friend 'you dick' at a time when most would say 'idiot' or 'dumbass' or something similar. In his culture, those words are just not interpreted with as negative a connotation as they are in hers.

Just another illustration of a point that I think is made by both Lee's and EEK's examples--the cultural piece of this seems to come from the degree to which certain inhibitions are ingrained. Which I'm not saying is either good or bad, I just think that's part of the difference the OP is noticing.