Confrontations-- About Fighting, Arguing & Negotiating

[Yuki_Lyptustri]

Oh no it's not a general feeling of being trapped, only when we argue and he stands in front of the door!

Yes I have read the OP Doc, and I have tried the methods since thank you!

[dancingdoc2]

> It normally starts over really silly things, and it usually ends up like that, and that leads to ignoring each other for a few days. I'm definitely going to have to keep a copy of the list on my phone, with your permission Doc?

Permission granted.

You may also want to keep a copy in your purse or wallet.

If you are ignoring each other for a few days, then you have not finished your work. Please read what EEK has stated that has been emboldened, below.

For all concerned, this bears repeating:

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Arguing all of the time over silly things usually means there's a power struggle going on somewhere within your relationship.

What you need to be asking/saying is "Is this (meaning arguing) going to solve the problem?" Rather than standing around yelling at each other, sit down, open a bottle of wine or Gatorade or whatever, pour out two glasses and see if you two can't SOLVE the problem.

No more arguing. Period. Just state your case, once, then shut up. Your SO then states his/her case, once, and shuts up. You may find you're actually arguing about nothing at all which happened to my husband and I once, not that we do much arguing.

The point is to SOLVE PROBLEMS not to 'prove' who's right/wrong.