A good Date?

[newchris101]

Hey guys nice to be back.

Lets get down to business. I met this girl a while ago and we started talking. one thing led to another and we ended up on a date. We went to see a movie and had a good time. However she is now wanting to go on another one. I am not quite sure what to do with her. i mean i know what she likes and what i like but seriously there is nothing to do in my area. Just give me a few soft words of advice.

Also in a semi related matter we saw Bruno at the movies that one time and it was a really... uncomfortable situation to say the least. after the date she said that she felt like it was comfortable with me. it was an awkward movie but she felt comfortable with me. Im taking that as one of the comfortability checks and im thinking she wants to have something more than a fling.

Tell me if im right. regardless im doing what i want i just feel like its a titilating question and it will keep u guys on ur toes.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by newchris101

Hey guys nice to be back.

It's nice to see you posting, again. It's also nice that you think the people who contribute have some worthwhile information to share.

Lets get down to business. I met this girl a while ago and we started talking. one thing led to another and we ended up on a date. We went to see a movie and had a good time. However she is now wanting to go on another one.

So far so good, Chris!

I am not quite sure what to do with her. i mean i know what she likes and what i like but seriously there is nothing to do in my area. Just give me a few soft words of advice.

I know the situation as I grew up in a small town fifty miles from Sacramento and for us kids, the sidewalks rolled up about 8:00 P.M. There was a roller rink for a time, and a drive in and a one screen theater, a few restaurants, and that was about it.

Do you want to do something with her during the day, evening, or both? You can go on a hike together. We did that last weekend. Check out area hiking trails. What about going to see a museum or other nearby attraction, perhaps a historical site, followed by dinner? Other than this you may have to travel to a nearby city if one is an hour away or less. If you cannot travel, then get some KFC, a blanket, a couple of pillows, and, have a picnic dinner then look at the heavens after the sun goes down.

Are any of these ideas doable? Do they give you any ideas?

Also in a semi related matter we saw Bruno at the movies that one time and it was a really... uncomfortable situation to say the least.

Yea, I know.... I looked at a movie review and decided it was not worth parting with my money. Next time, if there is a movie you are curious about, Google or Ask, or Bing it and read the reviews.

after the date she said that she felt like it was comfortable with me. it was an awkward movie but she felt comfortable with me.

Now doesn't that give you warm fuzzy and a satisfying feeling?

Im taking that as one of the comfortability checks and im thinking she wants to have something more than a fling.

Tell me if im right. regardless im doing what i want i just feel like its a titilating question and it will keep u guys on ur toes.

Me, too. So, if you have additional questions, please do not hesitate to ask. In the meantime, browse the Index and do some reading. Knowledge is empowering. Keep on keeping on. You are off to a great start.

[CLVR-HNDS_GUY]

females are always more loving and into a guy before the guy is the same with them, thats how i see it, if you enjoy her company and you want to know her more so shes your girlfriend, go to dinner, cafes and things like that
relationships from the start are the hardest to begin and still bit of work to do during it, im reading the five love languages by Gary chapman, just started it and makes sense to me about things in my life i havent been able to understand

[EvilEvilKitten]

Infatuation - very nice and all of that, but you can't rely upon that. My advice is to not spend money but spend time with her and do not rush the intimacy.

[Brandye]

"....... what to do with her." She is not a found klitten to be dropped off at the animal shelter, for God's sake. We women are not chattel.

If it was a good date, ask her out again; if not, tell her you are not interested in further contact.

[newchris101]

well the thing is.. it was a good date and such. we had a good time. and by saying what to do with her... i meant like what things we could do as in i would be WITH her and im not sure what to do WITH her like together.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Does she read books? Then go browse through a used bookstore - you don't have to buy anything just browse with her.

Do you see?

Find out what she enjoys and then do something that goes with that with her.

[newchris101]

i do understand what youre saying. but this all seems like stuff that if we did it we would be bored.

The main point is we are young and we like to be excited 100% of our young lives but idk what kind of dates would be exciting.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Oh yes, spending TIME with her doing things that she would like would be sooooo boring - how could you ever stand it? You may even have to TALK to her.

Well, if it is 100% excitement you NEED go and play tag on the Interstate during rush hour.

*brick*

[maxrep]

Dude there are plenty of things to do. Grow up in a town of 5000 and you'll quickly find ways to entertain your lover. Seek the hidden talents inside you like cook her a special dish she likes and then watch a movie. Go to a movie, ice skating rink, roller rink, go bowling. Go for a walk along a dirt road or drive out to a dam or stream and talk. Walk her in a field after dark and catch her some fireflies, or ride in the woods looking for wildlife. Play songs she likes and take along snacks she likes to eat. Go mountain biking together, go to the gym or YMCA. Play board games or computer games. Read poetry to her or have her read to you. Walk in the snow, cross country ski. Lay out under the stars and watch for meteors, watch a sunset or a sunrise. Take her to a mountain with some hot chocolate and watch the morning sun come up from the tailgate of your pickup. Ride horses, go canoeing, camping, swimming, fishing. Rub lotion on each other and sun tan together, you don't have to go to a beach to do that
How do you know she has to do exciting things all the time. Did she say that? Apparently she wasn't so bored with you or she wouldn't be coming back for more. For me any date I had with my babe especially early on in a relationship was exciting. Just to have her in my vehicle was exciting. Be real and don't try to be something your not by trying to be extravagant all the time. Unless you've got a big wallet you don't have to dance in the French Riviera to be exciting dude just be yourself. Its the simple things in life that mean the most.