New Girlfriend Worried..?

[thatoneguy]

We are both in our early 20's, and definitely going to have sex for the first time when I go stay with her this weekend. She has given me oral sex a few times, and though she says she can't wait to have sex, she seems a bit worried about the size/pain issue. What are some things i can do and/or keep in mind to make sure she's comfortable and not in pain, other than taking it slow and easy?

thanks!

[dancingdoc2]

Please read thru the Index found at the top of the main screen.

There are articles that address this topic. You may find several more articles of merit, also.

[Brandye]

All women are concerned for the first time. It is unlikely that you can do anything to change this. Be careful, be patient, let her have as much control as possible.

The female body is being asked to accept something into it. The threat is different from anything a male experiences. We all worry that we will not be able to accept the penis.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Usually this is only an issue for virginal women. But you still have to realise that the first few times with a new lover are not going o obe the best times with that particular lover. You are both learning your way around each opther and finding out what delights this person. As your familiarity increases so does the pleasure.

By doing The Program, a sticky post found elsewhere on this site, you will ease and speed up this process immensely.

[Sesshomarulover261]

I think the best thing you can do is just be very patient and gentle. It seems that she is not shy which is a very good thing but in case she is then just be supportive of her.

My first few times with my boyfriend he would always tease me about me being so shy to make me feel more comfortable about what we were doing and about myself so try to do that with her if she seems a little nervous.

Oooo! Oooo! and also talk to her very sweetly. Lol not cheezy or anything just be sweet

[thatoneguy]

Did all of the above, didn't work out if you know what I mean, just now getting time to post though. It was a bigger deal for her than me, she felt really bad at first, I just reassured her that it wasn't a big deal and that i was fine, we'd try again later (other people prevented that the rest of the weekend). Oh well, we'll try again next time we can lol