When is it the right time to have sex?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Just s-l-o-w-l-y wander back toward the bedroom dropping one piece of clothing here...and another there.... and......

[RATED-RKOFRANKLIN]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Brits tend to be either too diffident or too forward - it seems tha you have gotten hold of a diffident one. This means you're going to have to get up on your back legs and DEMAND sex. Just begin kissing him, and kissing him and moving your hands down his body and pressing yourself against him and then back off and say NOW.

All I can say is wow. That would easily work on me.

[King Rick]

Originally Posted by RATED-RKOFRANKLIN

All I can say is wow. That would easily work on me.

That's because you've never had sex and would get off if a girl touched your leg

[GaryRed]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Brits tend to be either too diffident or too forward - it seems that you have gotten hold of a diffident one. This means you're going to have to get up on your back legs and DEMAND sex. Just begin kissing him, and kissing him and moving your hands down his body and pressing yourself against him and then back off and say NOW.

Is it alright for guys to DEMAND sex from women? Or is this a case of double standards...?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Depends upon HOW, when and with whom, you demand sex, Gary.

A wife of many years will probably laugh and return to her knitting.
A long-term gf will probably think that it is great!
A brand-new gf might get scared.
A woman you don't know would call the police or beat you up.

[GaryRed]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Depends upon HOW, when and with whom, you demand sex, Gary.

A wife of many years will probably laugh and return to her knitting.
A long-term gf will probably think that it is great!
A brand-new gf might get scared.
A woman you don't know would call the police or beat you up.

This was posted by you previously:

The girl has that rep because she's been turned OFF by guys always and only wanting to get into her knickers, viewing her as being a challenge to their wooing prowess etc and so forth. So if you are just going to be and yet ANOTHER jerk - FOAD, buddy. Yeah, yeah, I'm sure you're interested in her hopes, dreams, thoughts, future et al - right up until she's in bed with you and then it will be "cya bye bye chickie-baby" as you then go off and crow to your mates about how you conquered The Citadel.

Harsh? You betcha, baby.

The plain truth is SHE wants the real deal - a MAN, not some kid pretending up to be "The Man". My advice: hang out with her without making any moves but still showing a slight bit of interest. SHE has to come to you. Remember that trick - how to keep at arm's length without losing your grip? Do that yourself. Be calm. Be relaxed. Be real. You're one huge grumbly teddybear upon whom she can rely, with whom she laugh, with whom she can dance, with whom she can play, and to whom she can talk - when your social schedule permits.

Because you want the real deal - a WOMAN - too!

Get it?

Different sexes, different advice...

[EvilEvilKitten]

You think so? Perhaps you aren't reaading it clearly.

Did I not say that a man can demand sex depending upon how, with whom, and so forth?

"Don't be a jerk and demand sex" was told to some youngster trying to get a brand new gf. Brand new gf as you can see from the most recent advice would be scared and the answer, naturally, would be NO to any demands for sex. DUH!

Now if he has known this woman for some time in an intimate way, then YES, he certainly can get up on his back legs and demand sex. See under Long Term gf.

Now demanding sex from a woman to whom you have been married for 20 to 30 years - LOL - yeah, right. Well, at least you made her laugh. OF course there is always the chance that she'll put down the knitting and say "Okay. Who with?"

Can a lady demand sex? Sure she can! But with women the situation is rather different as in few men would risk saying No to their gf's/lovers/wives.

[lnt1103]

I think we're losing the concept that this is about him, too. How many of us (females of the species), on our first time, hoped the guy would be gentle, instructive and understanding? How many of us have been with more experienced guys and had that little bit of nervousness because we didn't know as much as he did and we didn't want to make a mistake?

All I'm saying here is, keep in mind how you'd feel if the tables were turned, and guide instead of pressuring.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Certainly. Consideration for others requires some intuition and knowledge so those who feel nervous etc. should be able to communicate - can't expect the other person to do all of the work here.