New guy in town

[man4ugirls_99]

Hello all!
I'm fairly new to this so bear with me please. I'm recently separated and horny as hell. I haven't had to get back out there and look since I was 22. Where the hell does a 40 y.o. guy start? Are any of these internet sex/dating sites worth a crap?

[dancingdoc2]

The short answer is no.

The long answer is to let family, friends, and, coworkers know you are looking to date and ask them to help find someone. This is called networking. The more eyes and ears you have working on your behalf, the greater likelihood of finding someone to date.

You can also join social, sports, or professional, groups in which women participate. Do some volunteer work.

You can also get into dancing: Ballroom, Salsa, Argentine Tango, Swing. A man who can dance well is an asset for many women. Whether you find someone or not, you make lots of friends and these friends can contribute to your network. In the process you can have some fun!

I recommend staying away from the Internet dating sites. Some cities have underground newspapers with personal columns, you can try these, either answering or submitting an ad. Regular papers may also have personal sections, also.

Give one or more of these a try for six months or so and see where you are after the first of the year. Success or not, you must keep on trying and using these methods.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Unfortunately the personals column of the newspaper is very much like the online sites so - doesn't matter.

If you use the free dating websites - you will find nice people, some very odd fish, prostitutes and fakes. You will find fewer of these on the sites that demand payment. I use Adult Friendfinder and adult playground. But then I'm female so it is easier for me. Unless I scare them off that is.

What I recommend to 40 yr olds just getting back into the dating scene is to prepare for battle. Take an objective look at yourself and how you behave and clean up your act - there's a lot of competition out there. Do not go out with an unloaded gun as it were. Look good, smell good, sound good, and have all of your ducks in a row. You're a man of substance.

Then be selective! Do not get with just anyone who comes along. Women will play you for all you're worth if you permit it. The signs to watch out for are: the "poor little me" act; the malicious sense of humor; the has no friends thing; and the wrong job - that is to say a 40 yr old never been married working at McDonald's flipping burgers for a living. All discontinuities such as that are huge red flags. If she drinks too much or drugs - you should also pass. You are worthy of better.

If she flakes out or stands you up - no second call/date.

Never appear desperate, lonely, and/or not busy. And don't wear your heart on your sleeve.