Dating depression...

[wet_suit_one]

EEK sure is great ain't she?

[SadisticEuphoria]

Ok, so I know i need to get out & date around abit. Find out more about myself, other people, etc. I've read the dating bit of the site, but I'm not really sure where to meet new people.
My friends don't know males, they dont want to date until there mid 20s so they really wont help me out. Theres not many places to go for people my age (16) and I guess I just need a few sugegstions?

[LickMyGamete]

..have you met Franklin yet? He is slightly older (19), but don't girls like that sort of thing?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Look around your school.

[Rouge]

I'd suggest first sorting yourself out. Don't worry about being with someone until you're stable enough to help them with their needs as well (and by needs I don't mean sex, I mean companionship, a level head, and happiness). You're 16. The friends of yours who are waiting till around 20 to date are very wise. School is your priority right now, and having a relationship will take away from the future you're building for yourself, which is the future you're building for your partner as well.

In addition, boys your age and even a bit older aren't mature enough to give you the kind of care you want or need. My advice: Wait. Get through school and work on maturing and finding yourself. If you find a relationship now, you'll be setting yourself up for hurt again (trust me, not one of the couples in my high school of 2000+ kids are still together). Take this time to think about what you really want, need, and deserve.

You aren't over this ex of yours quite obviously, therefore making you not ready for a new relationship. Take a complete break from dating in order to get over him, and make yourself ready for something new and exciting.

You've got time, 16 years isn't all that long to be alive.

[EvilEvilKitten]

I disagree.

If you're going to make mistakes while dating, and you will, it is best to make them while still with your parents. Always go out for you first few times with their safety net below you - just in case.

Waiting until you're 20 is delaying too long. Consider that the best time to have your children is when you're in your 20's. Trying to fit college/career, with dating/mate selection and having children - it is simply too much to deal with all at once especially for 'beginners' who no longer have that parental safety net beneath them.

To be learning about men while at the same time trying to find a husband - well, you're bound to make mistakes and time's running out. Not a good situation to be in. So get your education now by practicing with such single males are in your vicinity. Remember this is eductional, this is not 'husband-hunting' - the point is to get sufficient experience so you can make an informed and sensible choice later on.

There's no sense hanging about when it comes to life.

[Bells]

teen girls always seem to think they're husband-hunting in most situations

"we'll be together forever etc

[SadisticEuphoria]

I never said I was husband hunting. I do not think I would be together with someone forever, in fact, I wouldnt want that.
I dont believe in true love or love at first sight & that bollocks.
Wanting affection & a FWA/NSA 'relationship' Is completely different...(& thats what I want)

[EvilEvilKitten]

Since FWB NSA is what you want - then why wait at all?

GO FOR IT!

[Babyycakkez]

Originally Posted by nuttychick

Ahhh First Love is always the same, Most of us have been through exactly the same thing. Same feelings of sadness when it is over, same No one has ever loved me blah blah lol

Time to move on and meet new guys, after a while you will wonder what the big fuss was about.

Take this time to read up on sex and relationships , learn about your body and what turns you on, so your next encounter will be even better...
This is Just the start of your "Love Life" it will have its ups and downs
good times and bad, It is up to you to get what you want out of it.,

ALWAYS use CONDOMS etc, be safe is the main thing.

Hope this makes sense, Im not the best at relaying my thoughts into words..

Good luck ... if you have questions ask. there are great people here to help.

ummmm okaay well i kinda went throughh the samee but when he leftt me for his exx we were still bestfriendss tho it was never the same

andd likee i start and meet new guyys and talk to them and some of them i really do likee but everytimee im talkingg to someonee and he comess alongg hes all i want all i see andd idkk hess the first guyy ive told i love you to and we went through so much stuff to get together we were amazinglyy good friends at first now its kindaa distant but only because we wanna get overr eachotherr

so im kindaa lost?
help?