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[dancingdoc2]

I am sorry for your break up, yet, truth be told, if you have been reading any of my posts and Sticky posts on the matter, and just as recently as a day or two ago, I've outlined what dating is supposed to be all about. That is, to learn what humanity has to offer us in a potential mate. For dating to work well, you should not enter into an exclusive relationship until you are ready to settle down and then only with Mr/Ms. Right. By dating openly with one or two people at a time, you have more opportunities for adventure, a Saturday night date, and any other things without having the drama and trauma that comes with exclusivity.

Get out there and start dating lots of people, some at the same time. Begin learning about the many personalities, characters, likes, dislikes, quirks, goals, moral values, etc. that people have and then when you are ready to settle down you will be in a much better position to know what you want in a mate.

I agree, do not be in such a rush to commit your heart, mind, and, body to someone you met days or months ago. Play it cool, play it slowly, and take the time to really get to know each other. The girl who dumped you was very immature. You may encounter this a few more times in your life until you and others grow up.

Please do read those articles in the Index that discuss relationships and dating for a lot more on the subject.

By dating

[EvilEvilKitten]

Also - remember how you got in this situation in the first place: you selected the wrong girl.

Learn to recognise immaturity when you see it. Learn to recognise, and stop discounting, 'red flags' - those traits which make another person ineligible. You do this by practicing (dating many as Doc has said) and paying attention to more than just him/her being cute.

[CegMister]

But I agree with other posts find out what means more to your girlfriend , her friend who seams to take advantage of her, or you. Also on what EEk said, I had a pretty short relationship once with this girl which I broke off I just sort of flew into it, anyhow my one "buddy" who is to put it plainly does not attract girls made up shit about me and said it to the girl. Im pretty sure it was just because him and his scumbag friends didn't have a relationship. not trying to go off topic but EEk post just sparked me remebering that.