new guy...

[nuttychick]

Originally Posted by bayonet777

i believe we all made it very clear that franklin is in no position to give advice seeing as he has never had a girlfriend

lol true

[EvilEvilKitten]

Hey OP - so you had sex with this guy. GREAT! CONGRATS! Hope you enjoyed it!

Now why would he NOT want you as his girlfriend????
Your 'value' does not lie between your legs.

The reason I ask is because you seem to have some very odd ideas regarding sex and self-esteem. Enjoying sex with a man does not decrease your 'value'. As long as you're being responsible about it (always using BCPS and condoms), reciprocating, and participating - you're increasing your 'value".

How so? You are learning about men and about yourself. This is good. You are learning that sex is not love and vice versa. You are maturing and growing through your interactions with others. All of these are good things.

Made a mistake? Yes, when you called him up and whined to him about 'making a mistake' - you made a mistake. Stop it. Having sex is not a mistake. Whining about it all weak and blubbering is a huge mistake. If you want to enjoy him - do it. If you don't want him - then don't. You decide because it is your body.

But if you are going to indulge in adult fun - you're going to have to be adult about it.

[bayonet777]

if you plant the idea in his head that you are weak he might just try to keep getting sex from you just a idea

[Libidogurl]

You are definitely sending him a mix signal that you want him or not, maybe right now he is confuse on what you are really feeling for him whether you like him or not. Why dont you just be honest to him and tell him that you like him but your afraid that you had given a wrong move with him.